Anxiety!

I’m booked on a baby massage class starting tomorrow and I’m dreading it! My anxiety is taking over.

I dread taking my little girl to any groups or classes as I’m always start on my own and no one talks to me even if I try to engage in a conversation

Please tell me I’m not alone… I feel so guilty

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Are you doing the groups to make mum friends? If not, you don’t have to bother trying to make conversation just enjoy the session with your baby.

Maybe an unpopular opinion, but I never did any baby classes with my first and I won’t with my second. Anything I went to, like a soft play or play group, I went with mums I already knew. I can’t stand the idea of making friends with someone I have nothing else in common with other than being a mum.

If you’re trying to make friends, obviously continue to chat. What’s the worst that could happen?

I started baby massage last week and was so nervous! But you will be so focussed on your baby and learning all the techniques that it will fly by. It is lovely for the babies to start interacting with each other too.

I went to one yesterday and everyone kind of kept to themselves and we barely interacted with each other. We were more focussed on the instructor and the class itself! X

I went to a baby sensory class the other day and just spoke to my baby instead of the mums 😂 I was super nervous about going on my own but felt at ease when I was there, I spoke a little to 2 of the mums but not a full conversation. Just enjoy the session with your baby you’ll be okay mama 🥰

Normally the baby next to you will do something silly or yours will, then you’ll end up laughing / chatting with the mum next to you!

Safest questions are how old are they, what’s their name. Mums love talking about their babies so it’s easy to make conversation!

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