Is it just me?

Hi Bianca,

You are not the only one. ..

Hang on there. It will be easier..and you will see the happiness in your child. Deep breath and you are doing great mama. I promise you will be fine.

Hey
I honestly get you🥰 I'm not with my babys dad either and I'm 30 weeks and we will never be together, I'm not sure whats gonna happen if he's gonna be in the babys life but he is also out there enjoying his free time and goes on about things he wants to do!
But I chose to have this baby my focus is on my babys life and looking at the positives that my life is changing🥰 men should take responsibility too but that's just typical men.

But you have this in the bag! Honestly your not alone, have comfort and talk to people like friends and family xxxx

Similar situation. My ex abandoned me at 8 weeks, never came to any appointments, or the baby shower. I’m 38 weeks now and Was scrolling on instagram the other day and saw the hairstylist I introduced him to in his hometown doing all the things he took me to do and even more. Even tho we aren’t together, it hurt that he would embarrass me in front of someone who actually knew me as if me and him will never see each other again.

The men who are excited about their children and support the woman 100% together are not are very well respected and God will continue to bless those who take care of their kids not the circumstances.

I cannot wait for her to be here. Thank you for your support! ❤️ I chose the baby from beginning, when I was sure we will not be together, but it still hurts. Most of the days I am concentrating on the positives, but I have some days, especially now that I wait for the little one to arrive. I am so sorry for how he acts. My ex does that with all my friends. But, darling the things that they are doing says more about them than about us. Thank you for sharing with me your story. And you are right! I believe in karma.

Definitely believe in karma. Another story I want to share…. My dad has 15 kids and the age difference between some of us with different mothers are like back to back, in between and a little confusing. He didn’t pay child support to any, ran from every situation and was never consistently present. My mother and the other moms have been blessed, married and completely moved on with their lives. Meanwhile my dad is still marrying every woman he meets, trying to find ways to get rich, and suffering from all the different back lash from each one of of his children. One of my step moms had 8 of them and she still was able to find a man that accepted her, all 8 of the kids and love them unconditionally. Women are always blessed in the end.

It seems these men like the “fun” parts when the babies here like bouncing and playing with the baby but not the actual hard work of brining up a baby.

Mine has not come to one appointment . He always said he was busy. We live far away and we don’t talk .
People who want to be in your life and your babies are the ones who matter most.
You got this, x

Your not the only one. My bd baits other women in just like he did to me. He is currently on gf number 5 for the year. And rubs it in my face. While I am raising our child on my own. Bd doesn't really pay his cs either. So no there are others going through the same thing love

Mine definitely Flirts with others … all the time.
How I see it, when the baby is born Mine wants the fun things but then disappear and not pay anything anyway.

Waw ! Thank you for sharing this story with us. It's actually helping in a different way, as is scary now having the baby by myself, but your story is reassuring that if other women can do it, I can do it too. And I can find a really good man that I trully deserve to be able to have the family that I always want it.

this is the way I see it with my guy too. That is why, unfortunately I decided not to put him on the birth certificate. Until he doesn't prove that he wants to be a father for gis child I am not going to add him, unless a judge decide that.

Blessings my love. God honors hard work. All will be well for you and baby, the rest will fall in place ❤️

did you put him on the birth certificate? I don't want to do that because I am afraid that he will take my baby and go into his country Morroco. UK doesn't have extradition plan with them and I am afraid he won't bring back the baby.

I had my twins, their father blamed me for getting pregnant, it wasn't planned or expected and at times during pregnancy I did some times think this isn't fair ny whole life is changing and he goes on as normal, but now I have my babies. That's it. And it's a love and feeling like no other.
I didnt put him on the birth certificate, I dont want him involved

@Bianca, yes, I did because he showed up in the hospital room when the lady that deals with the birth certificate was there. I don't know what state you're in. But if you haven't had your baby yet. Give an attorney in your local area and kinda explain what's going on. They can give advice on what to do. Because in florida for me, if I had never put my bd on the birth certificate, I would not have been able to get child support. Because they didn't force the fathers at the time to get the dna test done if they weren't on the birth certificate. Also, I was protected by a law that if the baby is born out of Wedlock, the mother had solo custody, and the father had to get paternity rights.

@Bianca I tried to co parent with him. The first few days after we split. I made the mistake and let him have her for Father's Day weekend. He, his mother, and half sister kidnapped her for over a week. My child was only 4 month old. His mother forged fake paternity rights papers. I had to get cps involved to get her back. Because the cops where lazy and believed him. Yes it was scary I had to literally trick him into giving my child back to me. His mother kept trying to make me sign some crazy agreement so I could have my daughter back. Pretty much tried blackmailing me with my own child. I end up using that in court and won solo custody of my daughter. And BD has supervised vists which he has never used at this point.

Hey Blanca. I’m in the same seat at you. Buy my BD promised to support me but has since ghosted me. Haven’t heard from him since April. I’m currently 30 weeks (as tomorrow). Write to me if you want support ❤️❤️❤️

Waw ! Congratulations for your twins and for being strong. I won't put him on the birth certificate either. I am in UK and I won't receive any money from him but I will take my chance. For me money are not that important. It's more important that he will come and spend quality time with his daughter if he really wants to be a dad how he always said to me when we were together. It's true he can take me to court but at least in this situation it will be a judge who will decide his rights and responsabilies as well.

my fears are valid, especially that he told me at the beginning of my pregnancy that he would like to go back to Morroco to leave there. He could take my baby with him (if he would be on the birth certificate) and not seeing her ever again.

I can't believe you had to go through something like that. You are strong.

when I told him that I am pregnant we weren't together and he said let's get back together to try to make things work. It was good for one month. After my birthday he ghosted me without reason and I found out from his friend that we are not together anymore.

@Bianca then if he threatened that then I would say keep him off the birth certificate. It was never for the money either I wanted bd to have a relationship with his child but he doesn't to seem to want it now.

Hi Bianca

I’m with you aswell mine baby father went with a younger person I didn’t know till u put a scan pic up then to find out he has other children double blow my relationship was fake all the way through . All the way through my pregnancy he led me believe I’d have my family back .
It’s very hard emotionaly but now I’m so over it as he is a narcissist I’m glad I’m away from a man that can treat me like that.
I’m sorry your going though this it’s not nice at all.
It will get easier if I could go bk I would of not let him near me at my birth or anything .
Just think of it u had a lucky escape the worst of it they carry on with there life while us woman scarified our for our children but wouldn’t change it .
Keep ur chin up hun ur going to have a beautiful baby soon x

Omg ! I am really sorry you had to go through all of that! Thank you for sharing your story!❤️ Both of them are narcisists and selfish. But you are right! I am glad that I chose to have the baby anyway. I praied for having a baby for years while I was with my ex-husband and nothing happened. And now with this guy it happend after almost 1 year. We didn't plan it, it's just a miracle! I can't let him take my baby away!

No problem at all just hope it helps you.
I still get problems with him now I won’t let him near my daughter and I’m so over him he destroyed me so much . Once u see them for what they are the better ur life is. It is hard bringing up children but they give u strength and fill it heart with so much love . I wish I hadn’t let him ruin my birth and 2 half months of her being in this world we all make mistakes.
Embrace ur little miracle enjoy every min .

we all learn from mistakes. Don't regret that you let him in her life for 2 months and a half. At least you can tell her that you have tried and it didn't work out until the end. I still wish and hope that he will change when she is born and he will spend time with her and be a good father.

All he did was make things worse in the two months of letting him near her worst choice I made he don’t care about her don’t care if she has clothes or anything . Iv done the best thing and cut him out Iv gone down the csa to get money out of him and he nasty with that . I hope urs does fingers crossed for u x

Same thing happened to me

mens are just arseholes