When does the newborn phase get easier?

I find myself going through peaks and waves of exhaustion and then absolute love for this phase. I feel so guilty for then feeling so tired I couldn’t ever imagine my life without my son he is my everything but when does it get easier?

I see people around me with kids and I think did we all go through this exhaustion? Or is it just me. Surely it must get easier if people go on to have more kids and I definitely wanted more than one…

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How old is your little one?
Newborn stage is so exhausting and feels like it last forever but I promise you it doesn’t

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It does get easier, but I couldn't quite tell you when. Even with my 3 year old we have good and bad days. It sounds strange but watch the "Baby Race" episode of Bluey on iPlayer. It really helped me put everything into context!

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Mine is 4 months old now and omg I miss the newborn stage 🤣 I get the exhausted feeling though, each stage has its challenges, need to remember your body is still fixing and healing, it does get better it really does

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it goes too quickly mines 4 months now too

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Idk. I felt like I got more sleep during the newborn phase. After maternity leave was up and I went back to work and he stopped napping is when I started getting really tired.

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I don’t want to come across as patronising or invalidating how you feel right now but a lot of mums say newborn phase seems like a breeze once you’re out of it and in the trenches of toddlerhood 💀 Yes, it does get easier. It’s okay to feel impatient at times.

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I found the newborn stage hard but super easy at the same time? Then I found the 3.5-6 month stage extremely difficult I found that was the worst, they become more aware and want to move and do things but can’t, the attention span is extremely short too at that age
The newborn stage goes so quick, I now have a 9.5 month old and loving this stage so so much

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My LO is 2 next month and I really miss the newborn stage with her. She was a breeze, now she is just a sassy little madam with one hell of an attitude and a very rebellious streak

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It doesn't get easier you get stronger and learn ways to manage everything better. For me the newborn stage required me to let go of everything else and focus on sleep and baby.

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Uhm. Newborn was so much easier with all three of my kids. Now it’s crazy all the time

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My baby is 4 months now and I sooo remember feeling like this. Just tired and on the verge of crying all the time! 🥲hang in there mama. For me I think it got better somewhere around 8 weeks or so but remember that every baby is different & you’re a new mama with a brand new human and allow both you and baby some grace as you both learn and grow ❤️

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this! i was trying to find the right words to say, i know that not sleeping is difficult but newborn phase is literally piece of cake compared to toddlers. and sleeping doesn’t automatically get better the older they get, mine is nearly 5 and still doesnt sleep, you dont need to feel guilty for being tired because youre human and youre going to be tired when youre kept up, but just try to appreciate the parts that are chilled that may make you feel better x

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I completely agree with this which just shows it’s different for everyone. Newborn stage was hard but fine, found around 4-7 months the hardest for the same reasons as you. And then from 9 months onward I found like it got better and better (still lots of ups and downs with sleep but a lot more rewarding overall) and that carried on until she was turning 2. Been a bit harder since but I still much prefer having a toddler to having a little baby! We can go out and do things, have conversations, she’s a proper little person and I love that. The challenges change through each stage and looking back it will feel like it went so quickly even though some bits absolutely drag when you’re in them.

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