friendships changing

my social have has been different since having my baby. I had a baby shower and invited only close friends and family. well close in my opinion. and a lot couldn’t make it which was cool. didn’t send a gift or visit me yet but it doesn’t bother me at all.

my bf on the other hand feels that if certain people didn’t support me enough while I was pregnant why am I going so hard for them now. one of my close friends. hasn’t called or attended or my shower but her husband dies tragically. I didn’t make the funeral because u had no one to watch the baby. but i’ve been texting her. I offered to uber her and the kids food or send a money donation. another friend i’m her kids god mom and I guess she assumed I was gonnna be busy so she didn’t invite me to his bday party. I just saw pics online but I still mailed a gift.

am I being too nice ? is my by right for saying leave them alone they weren’t there for you? I dunno I feel that everyone has a life and things going on. but maybe i’m being too nice. anyone else feel this way?

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I’d say a one sided friendship is no friendship at all 🤷🏻‍♀️

I personally think it's better to let friendships fall away that seem like too much of a struggle/are very one sided. I had friends who didn't like kids and never wanted their own, so after I had my daughter they slowly fell away. It hurt me for a long time but I've finally accepted it and am now trying to make friends in similar life stages as me! I hope your situation gets easier💜

Stop being too nice to people who clearly dont care. Your trying your hardest and they not putting in there part. I learned the hard way to be selfish and worry about me because no one else will.

It seems like you are the one putting all the effort in. In regards to the birthday party, she should have invited you and given you the option on whether you could make it or not. I'm a god mother to 3 children, but the friendship fizzled out. I stopped receiving invites to things and realized that people just grow apart during major life changing moments. It sucks. We have this fantasy that our best friends will be this very involved Aunt..it doesn't always work out like that. I agree with your husband.

May be not? Depends on how long you have known these people. If there is a life or death situation is understandable also maybe other friend was very short on time and only invited who she thought could make it idk? I am always on the communication side. If you are feeling like friendship is fading, just talk to them and share how you feel. Sometimes we don't see the other side and we are eager to blame.
And I get why your bf thinks that way but if you know them so long and if you already invested in the friendship, don't let him to manipulate that way. That's also one of the ways I have seen man single side their gf or wife from others so they have no where else to go or noone else to listen ..

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