Anyone else still crying?

My LB is nearly 15 weeks and I’m still constantly having terrible days that make me cry. I just want to feel like i’m nailing this whole being a Mum thing but I honestly think i’m so bad at everything. I never know what he wants and I find the days so long and hard. I’ve wanted this all my life, why has none of this come naturally to me?

I’m already being “cared” for by the perinatal mental health team but my anxiety is just constantly through the roof. Back in week 2 or 3 everyone said this would get better and easier.

When? 😞

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This will not last forever even though sometimes it does feel endless ❤️ being a mother is the hardest job in the world so give yourself some credit. Just keep going, you’re doing your best and that’s all anyone can do ❤️

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Your whole life changed overnight drastically and now you have this tiny human who's never been a baby before either and they are winging it too! With my first, the first 6 months to a year were the hardest for me in terms of my anxiety, my relationship, my physical and mental postpartum changes. No one prepares you for this and it's the hardest job in the world. This time round I'm making sure I have support so I can take me time as I'm a better mum when I have that time. You're doing the best you can and it does get easier I promise! Hang in there ❤️

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Your baby is going to start communicating more and more with you so it will get easier. I think it’s a total myth that motherhood should come naturally- it’s like a job with a temperamental boss, no handover or instructions, a lot of responsibility and very low (no) pay. Oh and they are liable to s*** all over you literally rather than just figuratively. It’s so so tough. Be kind to yourself x

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I could've written this post as I feel exactly rhe same with my 15 week old. I'm still getting it wrong so much of the time and he's so hard to keep entertained. I've also been advised to try cbt for my anxiety x

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Gosh, ditto I could defo have written this post too. At 12 weeks pp now and just found myself crying in my car in car park. Random breakdowns and feeling so inadequate.
I know we need to give ourselves a break and more credit, but it’s so hard.

You are not alone x

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