best friends

i would love to have a best friend. i’ve had wonderful friendships in my life so far and wouldn’t trade them for the world but i’ve never had a best friend. anyone else in the same boat? 😭🥺

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Yes!

girl how do we change this!!? 😭 i wanna be able to vent and be vented to ya know?? just knowing there’s another girly that’s got your back has got to be the best feeling 🥹🥰

For sure. I think we all get too busy and caught up in daily life we forget about friends

But now that I'm separated, I have more time.

this is the first time i haven’t had a job in almost 10 years so i didn’t realize how much i didn’t have a friend to confide in or much of a personality to myself whatsoever. it’s a very rude awakening 😂😭

I feel it. I'm also unemploymed and have realized the same thing! Its hard to find someone who is willing to be there for you.

honestly i thought it would be sunshine and rainbows to finally not have to work but it’s more like a mini midlife crisis it feels like!! plus for the last 3 years i’ve done predominately overtime so it really was only work and home and work and home. now it’s only home and i’m going bonkers! i’m also new to oregon and haven’t had much time to explore so idk what to even do with myself and the kiddos. 😵‍💫

It's hard, but anything is possible

Are you ladies located in Portland?

i’m in portland ! :)

Nice. I live in damascus.

im in nw Portland

Totally in the same boat. Want to change it. In vancouver

Yes it's almost a fairy tale to me at this point

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Diamonds

So I saw a post on another platform where someone was wondering why anyone would buy natural diamonds anymore since they have lab dimonds now and I commented

"I told my husband I want dinosaur poop diamonds not dog poop dimonds. lab dimonds could be made from anything natural dimonds are made from life on our planet billions of years ago and that to me makes them beautiful.
but there are businesses where you can send ashes of your loved ones and they will make you dimonds out of there ashes so I will be doing that with my 1st dog when he passes. my husband and I have also already decided that when we die he is going to be turned into dimonds and made into bracelets and im going to be turned into necklaces for our children. so they can always hold us close to them rather than just sitting in a jar or in the ground. might as well speed up the process. 😋
In my opinion the dimonds that you are able to choose what they are made out of are more special and valuable rather than dimonds that are most likely made of trash or rotting food."

What are your thoughts and preferences?

Vitamin D

Are you all giving vitamin D for EBF babies? My little boy is 2 months old and only now I started giving it to him but I feel guilty as I was told to start at 1 month

A gift for my son 4 years in the making, 14 years to go

I started this avocado tree from a seed the week my oldest was due with the idea of gifting it to him as a birthday gift for his 18th birthday. So when he’s old enough to move out he has a mature tree that hopefully can fruit.

I’ve had it in a bottle with water and fish tank water as fertilizer from the beginning and it’s still growing new length, branches, and leaves every year.

I cannot wait to give it to him when he’s older but I’m so attached to it I’ll be sad to see it go 😂

Macroni and sausage

Jollof macaroni from nma’sKitchen

Friendships after having a baby…

I only have a few friends who have known me a few years before i became a mum and i feel like they will never understand me until they become mums. They have their own lives where they have fun, spend time with friends, go dinners, museums etc and i’m never considering or included in any of these. They will come visit us and they’ll barely make conversations with me anymore. I feel like im completely invisible as a person and im now only seen as my baby’s mum. Which of course i am and i love it that im her mum but theres also a person behind that title that is being forgotten and i dont know how to feel about it.

My closest friend has been ignoring me, replying late to my messages and its just bringing up so much resentment. She is a busy person but im also a person who has feelings and again i feel like im not being thought of.

Can anyone offer any advice or tell me about your similar experiences and what happened to your friendships in the end? I really dont want to lose my friends as i always hold them dear and near to my heart but it’s upsetting me more and more over time…

Relationships

What should you do almost 3 yrs in a relationship. And have a almost 4 month old baby together we are not happy anymore with each other. I ask him why stay he said he hope things work out. But it hurts me more. I dont want to seems im staying for our son. I just dont know if I can do this anymore.