This may seem odd…
Living with fiancé and our 2 year old.
I’m now ready to have a another baby however it’s with the thoughts that my partner is not going to be as involved- due to declining relationship between he and I.
Declining I feel- because I don’t see that this man will be putting his family first. Sorry can’t add more context than this.
Is it complete stupidity to have another child with someone that isn’t as involved as you’d like? Knowing it may be difficult. I want more than one child- but not necessarily at any cost.
He wants more children also but he is not the active person I thought he would be.
If things don’t improve it’s likely I’ll be doing this on my own.. is it worth it?
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That's hard to answer. I don't think it's stupid, but I don't think it's wise to have another child with someone who isn't there for you and your current baby. Babies heavily impact a relationship, both good/bad.
However, as contradictory as it may sound, you don't need a man to raise a family. If you're comfortable with having two kids right now and willing and able to do it alone if needed, it's your decision.
If he wants more kids, you can discuss things that need to change before you add to your family. You guys come first. You're his intended, and he needs to give you and your family the respect and attention you deserve. Otherwise, you'll place unnecessary stress and hardship on yourself, your family, and your relationship.
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