Telling people

Hey I will be 12 weeks soon and want to tell my grandparents at that time as it’s one of their birthday. But our 12 week scan isn’t until a few days after the birthday. We would of had a 6 and 9 week scan before that, if they both scans are well do you think we’re safe to share the news?

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You should tell the news whenever you feel the time is right. There is a whole stigma about not telling people after 12 weeks but it’s your baby, you tell people when you want to, and congratulations 🥳🥰♥️

Thankyou, it’s just so tricky isn’t it! xx

I think it depends on how you feel about your grandparents knowing if something is picked up later. At 12 weeks they will screen for abnormalities that they can’t see earlier on. I don’t say this to worry you but hope it helps you make the best choice for you a

I told my immediate family straight away, extended family found out afterwards but I thought it was important for my immediate family to know incase I got unwell or something happened, so atleast I’d have that support already in place. It’s whatever you think is best and whatever you’re comfortable with xxx

There’s no “safe” point, tell whenever you want

We told immediate family the day after we found out. I'm 9 weeks today with my 1st appointment on Thursday. Once we have the ultrasound and everything is confirmed okay we plan to make our public announcement. Everyone is different and I believe that all stages of pregnancy should be celebrated 😊 do whatever you feel is best and when you are ready!

I had an 8 week scan and a 10 week scan and then told all of my friends at 10 weeks (I was on my hen party and it was impossible to hide!). I was nervous but think the whole 12 week stigma is really tough and can make the whole experience quite lonely! I also wanted to remove the pressure of feeling like if anything went wrong it was ‘my fault for telling people early’ so I went for it and told everyone and I’m so pleased I did! You can only do what feels right for you in that moment 🥰 oh and congratulations!!

I personally believe every pregnancy deserves to be celebrated for every day its easier said than done but as angel mamma to babies who didn't have long in this world celebrate the here and now .

Say to yourself- Right now this pregnancy is going well and this little life inside me deserves to be celebrated now and when in our arms .

It doesn't get rid of the anxiety but don't feel afraid to share your amazing news x

My first we told everyone really early.. around 6/7 weeks as it was Christmas.. my second we waiting till our wedding day and I was 16 weeks! Tell people when you want .. I don’t believe it can jinx anything and it should be celebrated :) x

Whenever you feel comfortable I personally told my mum at 8weeks but didnt tell anyone else until nearly 17weeks. Things can go wrong at any stage and I wouldn't have wanted anyone outside my mum and partner knowing if I'd had a miscarriage so that's why I decided to wait as once you reach 2nd trimester the risk decreases greatly. But I'm mega worrier! All I can say is enjoy your pregnancy I was so sick and stressed that I didnt until we got the gender scan x

that's exactly why we told some people early. In the event for us it did go wrong and it was easier telling those that knew rather than having to go from the beginning to those who didn't know.

We started telling people at 8 weeks but that’s because I already had horrible morning/all day sickness and nausea and I couldn’t do anything or eat anything or do my usual routine. We see family a lot so they would have noticed something quickly anyway 🤣 We didn’t tell people publicly until about 16 weeks though. It’s completely your choice.

I told my only living grandparent around 9 weeks. I had had a 7 weeks scan only but everything was looking very good with a very high heartbeat. My grandma is 93 so I knew I wanted her to know even if the outcome was bad. Just in case. I'm the baby of her baby so it held something more special for me to finally be pregnant.

I told my mum like two days after I found out and I was only 5 weeks
We only told parents
I couldn’t wait another 7 weeks to tell my mum
She’s my best friend
We was always told I was never having a baby and I had been trying for years
So to say she was happy is an understatement
But I waited till 12 weeks to tell everyone else

Share the news if you want to! And have the joy of sharing it!

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