Punching their face in bed (bedtime)

Hi everyone, my daughter has definitely gone through some tantrums where it’s fairly normal with the terrible twos phase however, she usually sleeps pretty well and lately just taking some time to fall asleep but just this evening, she repeatedly punched her self over and over on each side of the face for the past 30 minutes I went up there try to tell her to use gentle hands.

Hugged her, gave her some love and she let me put her back in the crib without any struggle or crying. Not even 2 minutes later she was punching her face again.

At bedtime, she went down just fine seemed sleepy and everything so I’m not sure what’s going on here but I’m really concerned. Has anyone experienced this?

Also, she has punched both of us when she’s been upset or throwing a toy but that’s just usually during a tantrum or when she’s frustrated. I’m including a short clip. This went off/on for 30 minutes (both me and hubby went to her bed) and it just broke my heart to see her, punching her self in the face.

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Is she teething ?
It could also be a stim/ sensory thing if she wasn’t crying.

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Her back molars are coming in at the top. But could this really be from teething? Seems extreme. She started teething at 3 months and had 8teeth by her 1st bday. I used to give Camilla drops but didn’t think that was necessary anymore. I have a couple of boxes, I’ll try that if it helps!

Haven’t talked to Dr yet, this just happened for the first time tonight. She is normally a really happy girl. Naps great, even at daycare. Doesn’t wake up in the middle of the night at all. And we are very cognizant about what she watches on tv (pbs stuff or cocomelon on iPad in the car).

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Also she wasn’t crying at all. Except for one small cry that lasted maybe 2 seconds. We have an Alexa show and we can see her Nanit on the display, that’s how I noticed it. She was quiet otherwise

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Seems she's bored or not so comfortable as she keeps changing sides. Doesn't look like to me that she's hitting hard either. More like random movements she found to do to keep herself busy. Lately my daughter just seems to be doing those pinching moves with her fingers.

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Admittedly I spent about 20 min on Google and read at least 8 articles. It’s just strange bc we had such a good day and when hubby out her down he said she didn’t even fight it (sometimes she cried for the first minute) also I normally put her down 90% of the time. I messaged my dr will keep y’all posted!

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My guess is that it doesn’t hurt like a punch thrown at someone else. My son kind of experiments physically and it seems a bit weird but I remember doing weird stuff like that when I was little too. And it may be that since you both went in to her after having done that she might be thinking, I wonder if I keep hitting myself if my mom and dad will come in? Might not be at all though, I saw someone’s comment about the physical stimulation. But yeah bring it up to the doctor to ease your mind or if it is a serious concern best to know from the professionals.

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Maybe she is hungry or needs a comfort item with your gentle sent. It will make her calm and help her sleep. I do the same for my baby

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Hello my daughter does unusual things to keep herself awake. Or self soothe. The self soothing is pulling her hair. But to keep herself awake she will thrash about wildly and kick. I the hair pulling is normal, but she’s toned it down on the thrashing around since we don’t pay her any mind when she does it anymore.

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