Baby weight

Hey everyone. I know weight can be a sensitive subject but I'm in a bit of a pickle. My HV keep saying my baby is underweight and it's really taking a toll on my mental health as I'm constantly stressing. She's 20 weeks old and last time she was weighed in August she was 11lb 9oz, which is when I was told she was underweight and I need to feed her more. Baby was born at 8lb 5oz and took a few days longer to get back to birth weight. Since then she's been unwell with 3 tummy bugs. One at 5 weeks, one at 13 weeks and one at 18 weeks.
I weighed her today and she's at 13lb 2oz which I think is amazing considering how unwell she's been since the start of her life. I currently give her 5oz every 3 hours and a lot of the time she doesn't finish it all but my HV wants me to give her 6oz. I just don't get what I'm supposed to do as I feel so pressured. Last thing i need is her thinking I don't feed my child and having social services involved. I'm a great mum but this has really upset me. She gets weighed on Wednesday so I'm hoping I can get her up to 13lb 8oz by then as it seems achievable but I'll see. Definitely in panic mode!

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When does it get better?

I was crying on the phone with the perinatal mental health team today and the lovely lady, bless her, kept assuring me that it gets better. I kept telling her I hope so because people have been saying that since having my LO and it just feels like it keeps getting worse. She assured me it gets better....

Rant/WWYD

My sister (youngest, 24) has two kids, 4 & 1, and i (oldest, 30) just have my one who’s 6mo old right now, so i ask her for advice or call her to vent about things sometimes. Well im tired of her turning around and telling my other family members that I’m “losing my sh*t.” Literally have not lost my sh*t nor have i ever freaked out to her about my baby, i just call her to talk and tell her what stage my baby is in or talk through how im feeling, but she chooses to tell people that im like a complete nutcase or something which worries me that my family is going to start being judgmental about me as a mother or looking at me funny like I’m some fragile ticking time bomb.

What would you do in this situation? I’m already pretty much decided that I’ll stop telling her anything about my struggles, but I’m almost at the point where i feel like it should be confronted because she, of all people, should understand what I’m going through.

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I’m going crazy. Baby born at 2.26kg. Slow to put on weight. This last week hasn’t put on any. Been trying to feed him at night and he’s not interested at all. Fast asleep. During day he will have 5 minute gulps and that’s it. He don’t cry for milk. I’ve got to keep offering to him. I try to offer it every hour but I don’t know what I’m doing. HV said nutrition comes after 5 minutes so I should pump first and then give him. I find it so hard. I tried to pump one boob nothing came. The other abit came. Tried giving him express he’s not interested in that too. Sometimes he will go for a longer a feed but not long at all. He’s 4 months and is currently 5.46kg. I have no family or friend support here and wish I had a cook, cleaner and nanny to help with everything so I can concentrate on the little one. I don’t know what’s wrong with him but I’m loosing it. It doesn’t help that my also stressed generally about my relationship and life circumstances. Any advice that will work. Any comfort you can give. I’m fed up. Is this regression - not feeding. He’s fast fast asleep. I’ve been trying to push the nipple in but that mouth is closed shut. I took some clothes off. Changed his nappy but he’s still asleep. Please help

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