When does it get better?

coming through for the girls. These are valuable lessons !

It will 🩷 I’m here to talk hmu anytime?

I think I started to really enjoy it at 18 months but I finally started to feel like myself again around 2. It does get easier though once they can move around on their own. My daughter’s first 8 months were HARD. It got better after that and even better once she was walking and talking

How old is your LO? 8 months was soo hard for me but 12 months onwards was lovely when she could move independently. 8-11 months honestly was my worst time 😅 velcro baby frustrated because they couldn't move and the weaning 😫😫 but I loooove it now - at 18 months it has challenges like responding to their emotional/behavioural responses but I can actually sit with a coffee while she plays now and I genuinely never believed that would ever happen 🤯

11 months ….it’s getting better

No it didn’t get better for me. It kept getting worse I hit my breaking point at 2 years, no medication helped, nothing helped. The ONLY One who not only “helped” but literally HEALED me was the Lord Jesus Christ. I did my research and read up on the Quran, Book of Mormon, Hinduisms millions of “gods”, Buddhism it’s all religion. I have a relationship with the Only Living God and He not only healed me, He also gave my soul the everlasting gift to spend eternity with Him! 🙌🏽✝️🎉

Kinda in waves for me but my baby is 8 months. I’m also actively working on self care, it’s hard but it’s important.

It varies for everyone but I promise it gets better. My kids were both really hard babies and they're 4 and 6 now and it's hard to even remember how things were, you just black it out

I am NOT saying it takes that long to feel easier. I think when your baby starts to talk it's a HUGE jump in easiness. Also when they sleep through the night. So for my kids that was 18 months for talking. Oldest sttn at 17 months, youngest did at 2.

This was mr experience - everyone is different.

Physically it took about 6 months.
Mentally it took about 18 months.
Sleep deprivation is still ongoing at 2.5 years later 😩

I was under the perinatal team with my first too and now with my second, I was actually admitted to a psych unit with my first when he was 10 months old. Honestly it annoyed me when people would say it would get better, like what if I'm someone it doesn't get better for? My son was 3 in November and I'm now 24 weeks. Honestly I really found it better after he turned one and became a real little person, before that I was going through the motions. I am just not a small baby person and that's OK, I'm trying to keep that sense of perspective this time round. It will kick in at some point and it's OK not to love this stage, my husband loved baby stage but hated 1.5-2 years! X

I totally get that, I felt like I really grieved that and actually had therapy about it once I was out the other side. All feelings are valid. I want this time to be different but recognise the pressure I felt to have this intense bond made it worse. I remember saying if I knew he'd go to a good home I'd give up, I just can't do it. Now I'm obsessed, it's a totally different ball game when you get something back for all the hard work you put in, him talking felt like a major milestone in our bond. I also felt like such a bad parent for feeling this way when he was a baby but felt reassured I was doing all the stuff I needed to, playing, chatting, cuddles, even if I didn't feel it. I took so many photos as I wanted him to look back and feel he was loved even if I hadn't felt it at the time. Things that helped were baby massage and honestly wake windows as a way of being like, I can get through the next short period of wake window. I also needed a lot of time on my own to decompress xx