People saying my baby needs a hair cut .. getting me angry!

My boy is just over 13 months and has sooooo many people say he's due a hair cut
His dad for one I have warned him you cut my boys hair I swear to godddd I'd turn to violence.. I'm not violent in the slightest
A bloody random man at the bus stop the other day said he's due a hair cut .. sorry I don't go round telling people their due a fricken hair cut
He's not the first like.

This is making my blood boil now 😩
Picture for reference
He's getting more curls n I'm in love why on HEARTH would I cut them !!!

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His hair isn’t even close to long lol
But if he was my child
I’d let it grow and braid it for him😭🄰

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His hair is so cute!
I’m a hairdresser so believe me when I say that it bothers me when people let their boys hair get really long, but this is absolutely fine!

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No way it’s so cute!! I love curls like this, there’s no way I’d be cutting it for a while! X

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He definitely doesn’t need one, unless his bangs are in his eyes (but that’d be a tiny trim).

Love his curls!

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I totally agree with you.

My fiance is saying that we need to cut our son's hair because his hair goes in his ears just a little. I'm like it took 10 months for him to grow hair on top of his head, he doesn't need a hair cut any time soon.
My MIL agrees with me. She's very superstitious. No haircut before 2 or it won't grow properly, lol.

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His hair is beautiful, I wouldn’t cut it if it was my child, I love boys with long hair

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My entire family tells me any chance they get, i refuse to cut it just yet

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Mine came out with a full head of hair and we put his bangs back with a clip to keep out of his eyes. My husband has long hair, and I don't think boys need to cut their hair to be more "socially acceptable". Many cultures have taboos about cutting babies hair, too. I'm planning on letting his hair grow unless it becomes a hindrance and he wants it cut. Everyone else can mind their own business!

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🤣🤣🤣

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So cute

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I think his hair is gorgeous so I’d be the same šŸ˜‚ it’s not long just curly, it’s so cute 🄰

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THANK YOU EVERYONE!!
I'm showing this to my partner šŸ˜‚
His curls flick outwards by his ears and doesn't have a fringe so definitely DOES NOT need a hair cut 🄰

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Beautiful hair šŸ˜
My son is only 7 months and I get old the same šŸ™„

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I would be upset if you did cut it!! My parents keep saying that I should cut my baby's hair. I just use baby hair gel and sometimes hair ties because his hair goes in his eyes. He's only 8 months but was born with a lot of hair.

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Omg no way

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His curls are the cutest. I would certainly keep them & let them grow too šŸ’™ I’m hoping our boy gets curls as wellšŸ¤ž

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His curls are so cute. It's totally up to you how you have his hair though. Even if you wanted it in a ponytail that would still be fine and your choice to do (I don't know your style etc..but some little babies are little skater style and beanies/ long curls and can tie up) nothing wrong with that at all x

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Lovely hair.

My son has curls too. He had had his cut twice now but I’ve never had the curls cut off. The first time was just a trim of his fringe as it was going in his eyes and the second time was an all over trim but not short enough to cut his curls off.

I don’t think your son’s hair looks long enough to cut yet if you want to keep his curls. It’s the perfect length.

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So cute! We got ours cut at 2 but that’s because he was visibly annoyed at it getting in his face. He did not have curls.

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His hair looks so cute and not long at all. Other people need to shut it.

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Ppl say a lot of things but try not to react. His curls are cute but why should that make your blood boil? Ppl say a lot worse things. Try to calm down.

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Omg those curls are sooooo adorable! I wouldn’t cut either!
I’m sure that comment can get old and frustrating. With relatives I would say something like as his Mom I’ll decide when I cut his hair. With others/random people I’m sure they just mean well, I would say something like yeah I’ll cut when he says he’s ready.

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Everyone kept insisting my daughter get her hair cut...at 4 months. To be fair, she was born with a whole head of curly hair that never went away like most babies. I was GUTTED when my sister in law cut her hair at 12 months without me present.

Anyway, cutting your child's hair is 100% your choice, and you need to be firm and tell people to stop pestering you about it.

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He’s so cute. 🄰 and such beautiful hair I understand why you don’t wanna cut it.

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Awe keep his hair it’s so cute!

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My son is 3, almost 4, and likes his hair longer. On top of that, he uses it as a sensory thing to calm him down and the clippers would be way too loud for him, another sensory issue. Therefore I refuse to do anything more than trim it up and everyone is always pointing out he needs a hair cut. I totally understand the frustration mama! ā™„ļø

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If it doesn’t bother him and you like it that’s all that matters!
Ppl will criticize anything and everything but he’s your child. I love his curls! They’re so cute! And I am the same way. I would want to see how they develop

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My son is three and has shoulder length hair. Strangers refer to him as a girl. I don’t correct them because what’s the point. I LOVE my sons hair and so does he. At this current moment I don’t see it being any other way.

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Girl fudge them people the hubby too tell them they gotta war if they touch his beautiful curly hair

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His hair is cute! And if you want your sons hair to be passed his shoulders that’s your choice not sure why others have a say on someone else’s child’s hair. I didn’t cut my sons hair until well after his first birthday and it’s only because his hair was so straight and bothering his eyes if not it would still be long and I’m actually growing it out again. Nothing wrong with having any length of hair. ✨

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His hair is beautiful don’t listen to the haters 🄹

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What a little darling šŸ’—

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He has lovely hair, it's up to you when you're ready for it to be cut, my little boy was 2 when we took him to have his cut, because it was tinkling his ears.

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I hate opinionated people!! Just ignore them they aren't worth getting annoyed over xx

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I did have my sons hair cut and I do keep it short...cuz hes a frizzball! His hair literally looks like I've attacked him with crimper. But that's my choice as his mother. You have decided to let ur sons hair grow out and encourage his gorgous little curls. Your choice as his mother. So tell them to mind there own sodding business.

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Sorry this is long, I hope some of you get to the end and give advice!!!

So I’m a very thrifty person, things are tight at the moment, the cost of living crisis and my house is heated by oil so things are extortionate. We aren’t on the bread line but we aren’t flush, hubby might be made redundant so there is some financial pressure.

Sometimes I buy my sons something nicer, on the justification that I can sell it on after (ā™„ļø vinted ā™„ļø). I have also been planning on pretty much breaking even most of the baby things I bought from face book market place, side by crib, baby changing unit, etc.

Hubby and I have different money cultures with our families (he’s Indian, I’m British). I’m my family we don’t mix money, we would help each other out if someone was in trouble and will get each other gifts on special occasions. With hubby’s family money is much more fluid, they will give each other things worth thousands of Ā£ just because.

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Hubby and I mostly share finances. If it’s relevant I’m the higher earner.

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