Family culture difference on money

Hmmm I dunnooo making the women pay for stuff is odd. I’m middle eastern though I was always under the impression all brown cultures spoiled women financially and men were embarrassed to rely or ask women

If you were plannning on selling those things anyways, and he would have to buy those same things anyways, then why not sell them to him! If the situations were reversed, you would probably have no problems paying your family member for things they bought regardless of gifts you’ve given in the past, right? If you still feel guilty (which I get, my in-laws are much better off than my family so I’ve had similar situations) you can give some of the cheaper/harder to resell things for free as a gift:)

If he’s currently single it could be years and years before he even meets someone / has a baby. Is he expecting you to store all this stuff until he maybe has kids? 🤔 (I assume you’re talking about cot, pushchair etc). Or does he want it now (which is weird for a single guy). And what if his hypothetical partner doesn’t want all that stuff, women are very particular about what they give their first borns.

I would come at it at this angle with my husband and point all this out. Then if they don’t see sense I would go down the route of the brother paying for the bits, explaining to him your reason for buying certain things in the first place was because of their resell value and you’re just not in a position right now to give things away.

When he has his hypothetical children he’ll understand the cost of it all 🤦🏻‍♀️

If he was married and his wife was expecting, I would say give him everything or most of it for free. But the man is planning a family only in his dreams...

Tell your husband that it is too soon to gather baby stuff if he does not even have a partner.

You could take out the most expensive things that are *likely going to sell* and give him the rest to avoid friction.

Now, my experience selling stuff on ebay/vinted is that only some specific brands sell relatively fast and well. I have things of good quality, in almost new condition for a 1/4 or 1/3 of the price and they don't sell. I ended up giving away a bunch of really nice stuff to a friend after more than a year of trying to sell.

So what I can think about is that you can offer to store things for him and in the meantime, try to sell them. When you find stuff doesn't sell or he gets a baby, pass them on. By then maybe he doesn't want it anymore.

I think the biggest issue in your scenario is that he doesn’t have a baby on the way… I can’t imagine he’s expecting you to store all this stuff for if and when a baby happens?! And surely he isn’t going to take a bunch of baby stuff now for a what if in the future?! It kinda sounds like he made a bit of an off the cuff comment that he hadn’t really thought through 😂

I bet if you asked him about the logistics of this he would realise and actually it all becomes a bit of a non-issue.

As above he could be waiting years before a baby is even on the cards. Maybe explain that certain things are difficult to store without the risk of mould growing on them such a cots, clothes, prams etc and he may think twice! X

I’m relieved no one is calling me stingy! I feel stingy.

Be straight up and just tell him your plan is that you want to sell the stuff. And leave it at that.
And if he offers to buy? Then good for you.