Career help

Hello. I’m so lost. I’m 23 and a first time mom. Right now I work part time at a gas station because the hours work for my family. I work 6am to 12pm. The thought of putting work before my family seems so overwhelming. I don’t want to do it. I need time with my family. I can’t do the passing relationships where I come home and my partner goes to work and when he comes home I leave. I can’t do it and I just won’t do it. I have an 8 month old and we want more children. We currently rent but want a house. I have an associates in human services and I feel like it means nothing. What are some careers you moms have and how do you balance work and family?

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I legit work in a daycare I work 6:30 until around 330-4 but I also bring my kids with me so I see them all the time

I work 9-5 M-F, WFH in my pyjamas, as a data scientist/engineer. It works well with my kids school schedule. My husband works shift work but he has lots of vacation time.

I also get unlimited paid vacation so it's easy for me to take a sick day for me or my family.

You may want to consider applying to companies that offer WFH. Would HR positions make sense with your education?

I was thinking something like this! It’s just a matter of finding something like that in my area

my degree is for things like social services. So idk if there are many wfh jobs in that field.

Honestly almost everywhere you look you can find daycares desperate to hire and it's pretty easy to get in places! At least that's how it is here. And most places give discounts on childcare too

to do Human Resources would be a career path change. I was thinking of going to school for nursing to be a lactation consultant but I’m not sure now is the right time for that with the way my schedule is. I’m alone with my baby for most of her wake periods. I think it’d be a lot to enroll into the next semester although when she’s a little bigger I do want to go back to school. Whether it’s for my ba in human services or nursing. At 19 I got promoted to a management position at my job but they let me go after having my baby. So I threw myself into this part time job so we’d be able to continue saving. I feel like I have my long term goals set it’s just the short term ones to get there is the tricky part

Try to apply for CAPS so they can pay for daycare then you can try taking some classes and work part time

I’m not really comfortable with that yet. I was diagnosed with ptsd after having my daughter because we were separated after I had her and that’s something I’m working towards. I’m not quite there yet. If I worked at the daycare I feel like it’d be different but I’m not comfortable leaving her somewhere where I don’t know anyone.

in our community

Am I in the wrong?

So my MIL has been weird with me from day 1. My partner and I fell pregnant within months of seeing each other so we understood her reaction to me being pregnant was never going to be positive.

She then started going through a divorce when I hit the 12 week mark and we moved out, she didn’t reach out for a couple of weeks but we assumed she was just busy with lawyer stuff so didn’t pester. However weeks then turned into months etc. my partner would text his mum and she’d ignore the texts.

I was 8.5 months pregnant when she decided she wanted to come back. She apologised to us both directly for being absent my entire pregnancy and explained she was depressed, struggling etc. we decided to forgive her and let it go.

Our son was born August 2023 and the first year of his life she was present and a great grandmother to him, don’t get me wrong she was still “off” with me like whenever I would speak about my son she wouldn’t respond to me, she would come over and not really engage much with me, make snidely comments about me going back to work at 5 months PP despite the fact I’m providing for her son to be a stay at home dad etc but I just thought I’d be civil for my son. We got engaged in October 2023, she didn’t congratulate us.

January 2025 she started being VERY OFF. She deleted me off all social media’s for no reason, blocked my number. My partner asked why and she said she didn’t like me as a person. So I decided from then on if she wanted to see our son my partner would take him to her.

The rest of 2025, she was very inconsistent. We would ask her to take our son as she usually would and she’d say “can’t I’m dying my hair today” and silly excuses. We then had 4 miscarriages that year and not once did she send condolences or offer to support. It got to August, our sons bday and she got him 2 of the same gifts we did - she came to our house and I said aw it’s okay these things happen no big deal. Her mood changed and when my parents arrived my son got really excited and she left. She then text my partner that night saying my parents were rude to her and turning our son against her? 😂 he’s 2!!!!!

My partner had enough and had a go at her, saying no wonder my son was excited to see my parents when he sees them every 2 weeks. Since then she went in a mood and stopped speaking to us and visiting or allowing my partner to visit.

We fell pregnant in August 2025 and this baby has stuck. We shared our pregnancy with family and she hasn’t contacted us. From August to Feb 2026 she was radio silent, hasn’t asked for our sons at all. Ignoring texts.

Today, she has contacted my partner to try apologise and worm her way back in, I told my partner I’m having none of it and she won’t be seeing our son or new baby as she yet again has disappeared for over 6 months for no reason which isn’t fair on us or our son as he’s getting older and more aware!

Am I being reasonable? The way I see it is if this was a parent acting this inconsistent and being deadbeat they wouldn’t be allowed to run back in.

When our daughters are grown

Are we teaching them that circumcised boys are dirty and unclean?

Bi curious

I’ve been with my partner 3 years, when we have sec i always orgasm, he makes the effort to make sure I do, but it’s probably cause I’m always thinking about a woman 🤦🏻‍♀️ since having a our baby 8mo I feel it’s become less maybe once a week and more of a chore to him, I just don’t feel desired or wanted enough, feels laboured and boring, I buy sexy outfits, toys to spice things up, and never say no to his advances but they very few and far between, it’s mainly me making the moves, I do love him but I can’t get the thought of having sec with another woman out of my mind 😫 helppppp, UK W.Yorkshire

You’re at the check out and notice the cashier gives you senior citizen discount. You’re very clearly under the cut off. Would you be excited for the extra savings or offended?

Turns out Monday morning at my Kroger and the lady slipped it in without saying anything. This has happened to my mom before and we were both obviously happy with a random discount but one of my sisters in law said she’d die if that happened to her because she’d be so embarrassed 😂