Feeling Lonely…Is It Normal?

I’m a first time mum to a 7 month old and I live with husband. I’m the first of my friends to have a child and have a few mum friends but not many.

I still BF so my LO hasn’t bonded as well with her dad. My LO refuses formula and is struggling with weaning.

To make matters worse my husband works really long hours and I do most of the childcare.

I’m trying my best and I do ask for support but I feel incredibly alone. Is this normal?

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Everything you have described is normal, and it is recommended for babies to start trying solids after 6 months but their main food source should still be milk, up to one year old, so just hang in there mommy xx

A lot of women feel the same especially when they are one of the first in the friendship group to have a child. Even then the relationship change’s between your friends. I would make a point to really get out go to some baby classes and try to meet people. Once you have a few mummy’s you feel you can talk to you will feel so much better but I feel you need to put yourself out there

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I feel the same don’t have friends and don’t have family support my only person really is partner who works all the time and when available the respite I need from childcare he isn’t much help (not being nasty) but my daughters so used to me feeding and he doesn’t do the routines etc the same way she always ends up unsettled. With regards to breast feeding and weaning may be worth adding vanilla essence to bottles if it’s the taste they don’t like it’s totally safe to do and with weaning what’s not going well? The packets and jars are good to start with xx

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So I saw a post on another platform where someone was wondering why anyone would buy natural diamonds anymore since they have lab dimonds now and I commented

"I told my husband I want dinosaur poop diamonds not dog poop dimonds. lab dimonds could be made from anything natural dimonds are made from life on our planet billions of years ago and that to me makes them beautiful.
but there are businesses where you can send ashes of your loved ones and they will make you dimonds out of there ashes so I will be doing that with my 1st dog when he passes. my husband and I have also already decided that when we die he is going to be turned into dimonds and made into bracelets and im going to be turned into necklaces for our children. so they can always hold us close to them rather than just sitting in a jar or in the ground. might as well speed up the process. 😋
In my opinion the dimonds that you are able to choose what they are made out of are more special and valuable rather than dimonds that are most likely made of trash or rotting food."

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Since when is it okay to request work from home at workplace? I’m currently entering 20 weeks and planning on requesting work from home. I know people usually start work from home from the 7th month but I’m planning on requesting since 5th month. Is that okay and acceptable in the corporate world?

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I’ve had it in a bottle with water and fish tank water as fertilizer from the beginning and it’s still growing new length, branches, and leaves every year.

I cannot wait to give it to him when he’s older but I’m so attached to it I’ll be sad to see it go 😂

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Friendships after having a baby…

I only have a few friends who have known me a few years before i became a mum and i feel like they will never understand me until they become mums. They have their own lives where they have fun, spend time with friends, go dinners, museums etc and i’m never considering or included in any of these. They will come visit us and they’ll barely make conversations with me anymore. I feel like im completely invisible as a person and im now only seen as my baby’s mum. Which of course i am and i love it that im her mum but theres also a person behind that title that is being forgotten and i dont know how to feel about it.

My closest friend has been ignoring me, replying late to my messages and its just bringing up so much resentment. She is a busy person but im also a person who has feelings and again i feel like im not being thought of.

Can anyone offer any advice or tell me about your similar experiences and what happened to your friendships in the end? I really dont want to lose my friends as i always hold them dear and near to my heart but it’s upsetting me more and more over time…