Do good men REALLY exist

I will start off by saying I don’t FEEL dramatic but looking from the outside in this may sound dramatic..
I am on my second long term relationship, minus my highschool boyfriend he doesn’t count.
I was with my sons father for 6 years. We didn’t workout because he wouldn’t grow up, or change for me. He played me the sob story, I love you but I don’t want to hurt you anymore. Whatever, I got through it and made a life for myself just me and baby boy. A year and a half later I met my current boyfriend, we’ve been together a year. Very much in love, wanted to get married and have a baby. Moved in together, all that. Similar issues, the yelling the cussing…I wasn’t going to go through that again. He is moving out at the end of the month.

The thing that keeps playing in my mind is that this shit hurts. Going from feeling loved and safe to being alone again hurts. Wondering why it seems like no man will do better for me. Why is it so hard to just communicate and not yell at me or cuss me out when you get mad. Both of them were the same at the beginning, charming, respectful gentlemen, and then they get comfortable and true colors come out. It makes me feel bitter towards men, and makes me feel like all men are the same. I’m too scared to go through this again to be in another relationship again. In my head, they all put up this act and show their true colors when they know it’s safe to do so, and put you through the ringer.

I don’t trust anything a man says anymore, I Beleive their all shitty. I have YET to meet a good man. My father, grandfather…None of them. They have all cheated, or been abusive. Every single man in my life.

I just want to be alone and stay alone. Someone told me I am becoming bitter…my question to you is do they really exist? Why do I keep getting the shitty end of the stick…why don’t I get a good one. A lot of women will say their men are a good man but hide what really happens behind closed doors, so I don’t Beleive in good men anymore…Ofcourse I want one. But they seem like unicorns.

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Good men do exist. I grew up with good men at home, that helped me to set the plank high. My father is my role model, my elder brother is almost like my best friend. I am with a good man now, it’s been 14 years, he hasn’t failed me so far.
Stay optimistic and hopefully a good man will cross your path.

Yes absolutely 100%. I am so blessed. My dad not only is an amazing man, but my husband is literally the most wonderful man in the world. I love my father in law as well. There are good men out there.. they’re rare, but they’re there. And trust me I had to kiss my fair share of frogs before I found him.

Also slight back story my husband and I met young and were together for 3 years, broke up due to normal life circumstances (mutual breakup nothing bad happened we just needed to focus on ourselves as individuals). We were apart for 1.5 years. And TRULY apart. 0 contact. Then we ran into each other at a bar. We had both grown so much and were in a place to be together again. Got back together. Got engaged, got pregnant and got married! But during that year and a half I was in the same boat as you… I always said I was NEVER going to settle down because all men are pigs and the only man I would have married wasn’t an option because we weren’t together anymore. I’m so glad I was patient. Don’t get me wrong… he can get on my nerves (as I’m sure I do for him too) haha. We definitely have our moments but never for a second have I ever doubted that this man was an amazing man. He would NEVER cheat or be abusive. He worships me as I do him. Nothing behind closed doors.

So don’t put up with that because you’re scared you won’t find a good man!!! Because I PROMISE they are out there ♥️

For me after being single for a while I found myself having my standards a little higher DONT EVER SETTLE! To answer your question yes it is still good men out there…

There are definitely still good men out there. Don't give up hope and don't settle for less. I was convinced that I was going to have to settle for one night stands or casual sex but then I found my man and I have never been more in love. Every one has flaws but if they have a good heart and treat you well then you can overlook the little things (ie nail biting)

🤣🤣🤣🤣 that shit drives me nuts and then they spit them on the carpet. GTFO!🤣

It is a pretty gross habit but he is so good to me otherwise. As someone who has BPD being with someone patient and understanding is super important to me

My ex was obsessed with the "perfect bf/husband" title so he made me hype him up online bro was literally the worst couldn't have possibly fucked up more my current bf adore him and I just rave about how great he is at any opportunity cause he's actually the perfect bf took me so long to find him but when I did he's been nothing but amazing we communicate and nothing ever turns into a fight we have the same love language and have so much in common

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