3rd and 4th degree tears

has anyone else in this group had more serious tears and would like to share their stories? how have you healed? have you had sex already?

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3rd degree through episiotomy . Healed fine (although the thought of the scar gives me the heave) I haven't shaved the right side of my vag cause it also gives me the heave thinking about shaving over the scar and haven't had a boink yet... But im a lone parent who's studying 🤷😂

I'm probably the wrong person to have answered this 😂

3rd degree tear. Healed fine I'm 14 weeks pp and had sex once. It was uncomfortable but not painful. When I was healing I had to pee in the shower everytime so was couldnt stray far from home for 3 weeks. (Peri bottle didn't cut it for me 🤣)

3rd degree tear I healed absolutely fine and didn’t find the healing process too bad just very tender understandably and I couldn’t sit in the same position for too long! Haven’t risked sex yet I’m not brave enough 🙈😂

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