Hey ladies what do you think about this?

So my child father sent me this video. Right now we are in a rocky situation. He has another relationship other than with me. I cant stop a man from doing whatever he wants I let him be. Knowing what we went through, (lost my job because his pettiness, got called a broke mother, ugly, fat, stank, what’s worse was him being out with another female while I was on bed rest after getting a c section and him telling me no, that I’m always nagging him). Ever since then I told myself imma let him do him. He’ll come to realization soon and I won’t be having it. Gotta play this out because he’s the only help I have with our daughter, if things don’t go his way I’ll end up with nothing again trying to find someone to help with our baby. Or until she can go to school and I’ll have that time for either school or work.
Back to the topic, he sent that video to me and I replied with “ she’s right in some cases but not in a situation like us we gotta put our kids first because we are unhealthy and toxic”. I kinda say that so that he can know that the shit he pulled a family man would never do that. His respond is in the comment section.

Read more on Peanut

The views expressed in community are solely the opinions of participants, and do not reflect those of Peanut.

Learn more about our guidelines.

Add a comment

Idk your situation but girl it’s always a toxic ass man telling you you the one that needs help 😂 …I hope you find what works best for you and your daughter ❤️

lol foreal, I’m putting up with so many things for the sake of our little one. I’ve been called sick so many times for pointing things out that he knows isn’t right

I’m not gonna lie to you I’ve been called a bunch of names in front of my kids, luckily they not old enough to understand anything yet, but I totally get where you’re coming from

Hello. I pray you heal from that toxic individual person. You should remove all focus from him on to you and your baby. Focus on putting yourself in a position where you don’t need him, and actually execute those plans. Apply for government assistance if you need to for child care or anything else you need to for you and your baby especially if y’all aren’t married. In my opinion he sent you that video out of manipulation. Which is very unfortunate. A relationship should be Two ppl pouring into each other. Not just everything being solely on the woman. Not only is he disrespectful, and taking advantage of the fact that you need him but he doesn’t care. Focus on getting yourself together as best as you can for you and your baby to have a healthy environment on your own. Is there not a family friend or family member you can go by to get yourself together? I don’t know your situation, but it sounds like you need to remove yourself from that situation asap.

I’m sorry you’re dealing with such a toxic, manipulative, immature, and ungrateful ass hole. You deserve better. I pray you receive better, and I also pray that you and God can put yourself into a situation where you don’t need a man to financially provide for you ever again. Please be careful in the future for your self respect and worth and also your peace of mind ❤️

Leave him asap and let the courts force him to pay child support. And you can get help with other government programs.

in our community

Oh my God, oh my God I hope this is not true!!!! I’m kind of scared

I’ve been throwing up and taking a shit all night!!! I just hope that it’s not what I think it is

Small head reported following 20 week scan

Has anyone else had it flagged that their baby is in the bottom 5th percentile for head size?

They said everything was fine whilst we were in the scan and then I got a phone call the next day saying that it’s on the small side and we’re being referred to a paediatric specialist at St George’s. Has anyone else had this and how did things go??

Would you bring 9 week old to a family party of 35+ people?

These are also people who will want to pass the baby around and get a turn to hold him. He just got his 2 month shots two days ago

Exercise 6 weeks after c section

What movement did people start to introduce? I won’t do anything too vigorous until I’ve seen the pelvic physio as I don’t want to compromise anything that may have been extremely weakened through pregnancy! But just wondering what types of classes/movement people started off with?

Induction experience

I just wanted to share my experience with being induced as I wasn’t sure what to expect and thought it may help others.

I opted for the foley balloon which was inserted at 8am Saturday morning, I had to stay in hospital due to hypertension and protein urine however usually you can just go home once this has been done. The insertion of the balloon was not painful, was slightly uncomfortable as there was slight pressure. I actually found having the cervix checked prior to be worse (again not painful at this point just uncomfortable) The balloon had little effect and after having it removed I was still only 1cm. Removal also was pain free and hardly even noticeable.

I then had my first dose of the gel and definitely noticed a difference, I started experiencing period like cramps almost immediately however they were light and manageable. After 6 hours I had another cervix check and although my cervix was soft it was still only 1cm and was only open at the front. I had another dose of the gel and felt an increase in pressure and more intense cramping where I now required pain relief (codeine). After another 6 hours I had another cervix check and I had now dilated to 2-3cm however was still quite difficult to get all the way through so a third gel was recommended which I agreed to.

Almost immediately I noticed the difference and was in considerable pain, I had paracetamol and codeine however the contractions had now become intense and a lot closer together (around 3 minutes apart). After a couple of hours I had my last cervix check and was 4cm and taken down to the Labour ward to have my waters broken and an epidural.

I had been in my room for approx 20minutes when my waters broke by themselves and I was now 10cm and actively pushing…. There was no time for the epidural and my beautiful girl arrived into the world within 2 minutes of pushing.

All in all I would say the cramps/contractions were manageable up until the third gel where it became pretty unbearable however it was for a very short time a gas and air helped take the edge off. The worst part about any of it was actually the later cervix checks where after stimulating the cervix my contractions were at their most painful.

If I had to be induced again I would skip the balloon and opt for the gels immediately as thy had a quicker effect and I would have been out a lot sooner if I had done this to begin with.

One more thing, I’ve never believed when people say “you forget the pain once they’re here” but I can honestly say this is true. It’s been 4 days and I would do it all again in a heartbeat.

Anyone else experiencing this?

Gave birth (vagina) 5 days ago and yesterday morning and this morning getting lot of pain in my right bottom side and lower back