The Mommy Psychologist: Support and Tips with Dr. Sandra

Toddler teaching methods

My boy is 12m old in a couple weeks. He's a wonderful little kid but he's coming into toddler hood. Testing boundaries, not listening to what he is able to understand, doing things to get our attention. I feel like I'm running the gammet of "methods". Gentle, redirection, relocating(going to sit in crib), firm and stern. A) I think I'm confusing him B) I don't know which ones are right. I've not been able to stick to one method long or been consistent enough to probably even see if it works! But I'm all brake and no gas. I feel like I can't commit to them because especially the tougher ones like being stern or setting hard boundaries leave me feeling awful. And is he even old enough for those types of methods yet??

This morning he was playing with a lamp and would not stop even after being redirected. I put him in his crib and he ended up bouncing and biting his lip. I felt. Horrible. I need to get my stuff straight and figure out what my boundaries and methods are here!!! Help!

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Vanilla extract

Has anyone used alcohol free vanilla in their babies formal to help them drink?
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Just anxious to try it, don’t want her to get used to it and then refuse bottles again after two weeks of using (correct me if I’m wrong but I’ve read you use it for 2 weeks max)

TIA 🙂

Naps

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Pumping advise

FTM to a 2 week old! I’m breastfeeding and then giving one formula bottle last in the evening before bed. I want to start expressing milk to give me some breathing room and also allow my partner to be more involved in feeding. I’m finding the idea of introducing pumping into my day quite overwhelming though. I don’t want to take milk away from my baby by pumping if he needs it during the day when being breastfeed.

Can anyone advise how I start pumping and when to do it? Thank you!