Disrespectful or not?

Me and my boyfriend got together in January 2020, his mum started messaging his ex in February 2020 out of no where after not speaking to her for at least a year and inviting her round the house which I lived in with my boyfriend and his parents! Then he’s ex starts messaging me vile messages like my boyfriend is going to cheat on me, we won’t last blah blah blah!! And has caused drama in my relationship for nealry 4 years now!! And then messaged his mum messages of what I said to her to make me look bad.
At this point my boyfriend blocked his ex on everything and told his mum to just stay out of it! She then told him she is and that she has blocked her! Yet she carries on messaging his ex, slagging me of to her and then inviting her round the house for a catchup!

A year later the ex messages her (which if she was blocked she wouldn’t be able to) to ask if my boyfriends mum can do her nails, in which she said of course, come round whenever your always welcome!

Now…
I found this out a month after having my little girl in June 2023 and To this day she keeps apologising to me but her excuse for slagging me off and inviting his ex round the house after years of drama with her is that she didn’t know me! (Yet she had known me for about 10 months by this point) and that she found it hard because she really liked his ex girlfriend, but she’s then telling her son (my boyfriend) that she’s done nothing wrong and doesn’t know why she’s being treated like this!!!

Now because I won’t forgive her she keeps making up that she’s had to call an ambulance out due to panick attacks - which I know is a lie because she loves to put her whole life on Facebook! And that she had cut her wrist with a knife - yet we went up a day later and both arms were perfectly fine and no cuts at all!!!!!

Is it just me or does anyone else see what she’s done wrong?? And can understand as to why I won’t forgive her?

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Holy shit this has been my life for going on 3 years!

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I’m glad someone understands!!! Like I’ve been alone having to deal with this on my own because my boyfriend just doesn’t care 🤯

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I wouldn't have lasted that long. Girl you are made of steel! I mean I have drama myself with my mil but it's more about how I don't buy things for my daughter that fit her when her son (my partner) is the one that doesn't have clothes for her.

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I’m sorry but if my spouse didn’t care I wouldn’t still be in that relationship my husband has said something to his family members but they just don’t care so

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Trust me we have come to breaking up so many times! But just pushed through it!!! But then in this situation like he blocked his ex straight away and didn’t know anything of what his mum was doing until I told him so I can’t blame him for that part only the not caring part 😅

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Also can I mention that now she’s making up that me and my boyfriend have both said she can’t see her granddaughter 🤣🤣 I’m not sure when this came out of mine or my partners mouth butttt 🤣🤣

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I mean even if that was said that would be your decision or you and your partner because that’s y’all’s kid and you’re the mom . How I see it with my in laws is they don’t like me why should I be nice anymore why should I take the time to be a nice person when they’ve been horrible to me since the beginning

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