SAHM with no friends and family in my city

How do you all stay sane !!? 😭 I’m fine but it gets lonely realizing I have no friends or family here 😩

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I just learned how to enjoy myself and my company 😅

When baby sleeps you chat with ur friends form back home!!

Right there with you. Starting to have to try not to lose my mind

Play with my kids
stay busy with loud music/laundry/dishes/trash/sweeping

Honestly most of the time I enjoy it 🤣😅

I found a small bookstore that I go to and force the store owner to talk to me. Lol jk but she is great and does love to have conversations. Going out for coffee with just my son and I helps too.

I clean or am bored and decide to go on social media as well as check out apps like this one lol

Not having people around can be a blessing lol I made the mistake of moving home to my small town after 10 years away. Appreciate your freedom!

Personally, I think it gets much easier as LO gets older ❤️ They become your little pal and over time you’ll likely meet other moms in random situations and click enough to become buds too. The first year is always the most difficult I think when it comes to developing a ‘tribe’ but just put yourself out there and I’m sure you’ll meet someone! 💕
I’ve honestly met so many moms craving friendship just at grocery stores even, just say hey and make light conversation and if they seem like your type of person then see about exchanging numbers ☺️ Trust me, once you get a bit into momhood that becomes much less weird than it would have seemed before 😂

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Am I in the wrong?

So my MIL has been weird with me from day 1. My partner and I fell pregnant within months of seeing each other so we understood her reaction to me being pregnant was never going to be positive.

She then started going through a divorce when I hit the 12 week mark and we moved out, she didn’t reach out for a couple of weeks but we assumed she was just busy with lawyer stuff so didn’t pester. However weeks then turned into months etc. my partner would text his mum and she’d ignore the texts.

I was 8.5 months pregnant when she decided she wanted to come back. She apologised to us both directly for being absent my entire pregnancy and explained she was depressed, struggling etc. we decided to forgive her and let it go.

Our son was born August 2023 and the first year of his life she was present and a great grandmother to him, don’t get me wrong she was still “off” with me like whenever I would speak about my son she wouldn’t respond to me, she would come over and not really engage much with me, make snidely comments about me going back to work at 5 months PP despite the fact I’m providing for her son to be a stay at home dad etc but I just thought I’d be civil for my son. We got engaged in October 2023, she didn’t congratulate us.

January 2025 she started being VERY OFF. She deleted me off all social media’s for no reason, blocked my number. My partner asked why and she said she didn’t like me as a person. So I decided from then on if she wanted to see our son my partner would take him to her.

The rest of 2025, she was very inconsistent. We would ask her to take our son as she usually would and she’d say “can’t I’m dying my hair today” and silly excuses. We then had 4 miscarriages that year and not once did she send condolences or offer to support. It got to August, our sons bday and she got him 2 of the same gifts we did - she came to our house and I said aw it’s okay these things happen no big deal. Her mood changed and when my parents arrived my son got really excited and she left. She then text my partner that night saying my parents were rude to her and turning our son against her? 😂 he’s 2!!!!!

My partner had enough and had a go at her, saying no wonder my son was excited to see my parents when he sees them every 2 weeks. Since then she went in a mood and stopped speaking to us and visiting or allowing my partner to visit.

We fell pregnant in August 2025 and this baby has stuck. We shared our pregnancy with family and she hasn’t contacted us. From August to Feb 2026 she was radio silent, hasn’t asked for our sons at all. Ignoring texts.

Today, she has contacted my partner to try apologise and worm her way back in, I told my partner I’m having none of it and she won’t be seeing our son or new baby as she yet again has disappeared for over 6 months for no reason which isn’t fair on us or our son as he’s getting older and more aware!

Am I being reasonable? The way I see it is if this was a parent acting this inconsistent and being deadbeat they wouldn’t be allowed to run back in.

Chicken

How did you introduce chicken?? TERRIFIED of choking!! Or introduced any meat yet

Marriage fizzled out

I never thought my marriage would fizzle out so soon. Could it be because we’re just recently married and it could be a small temporary bump in the road? I just feel like my husband changed and it’s getting worse. It feels like he doesn’t want me anymore. He’s leaving for 5 days and I thought we’d get to spend some time together at night but he rejected me. Thinking of going another week with feeling unwanted kills me now. Remembering the days he was crazy about me hurts. How could it have stopped so abruptly… Anyone with advice on what I can do? I already brought it up straight to him and he said he hasn’t noticed him being distant and I’m just left speechless because is he being for real or is just trying to shut the conversation down???

Alone

Welp. I expressed negative feelings to my husband and he responded with “I don’t feel comfortable talking when you’re angry”. Now we’re sleeping separately and I’m along for the night with the baby.
Trying not cry too loud- baby’s asleep (thank goodness). But I feel so unheard, so alone, so frustrated. My baby doesn’t like riding in the car, so I can’t even get out for a drive.
I’m a recovering stoner (over a year) and don’t want to turn to alcohol, so I’m alone with my thoughts and anxieties.
Feeling raw/vulnerable. May delete this later

Kindly answer

Besides being a mom
What do you guys do for living ?

Bi curious

I’ve been with my partner 3 years, when we have sec i always orgasm, he makes the effort to make sure I do, but it’s probably cause I’m always thinking about a woman 🤦🏻‍♀️ since having a our baby 8mo I feel it’s become less maybe once a week and more of a chore to him, I just don’t feel desired or wanted enough, feels laboured and boring, I buy sexy outfits, toys to spice things up, and never say no to his advances but they very few and far between, it’s mainly me making the moves, I do love him but I can’t get the thought of having sec with another woman out of my mind 😫 helppppp, UK W.Yorkshire