Staying with a cheater for benefits

My husband keeps cheating. It’s never anything sexual he just text women while he’s at work or when we’re on bad terms. I have 3 children with him and I’m trying to start a business and finish school would it be foolish to leave him while he supports me paying all the bills and anything extra while I stay home and work on my future or should I play this by a plan and get my career and business going first. I really don’t want to be stuck with small kids while he’s out enjoying his life and only getting them on weekends. See he still helps with them even though he works. He’s a great dad and he’s good to me except for the occasional chatting with women from his past. I’m really over it y’all I really want to focus on myself and build myself up but I want to do it on his back.

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Use him for what you need 100% don't just leave if you're gonna lose out ,take full advantage of him right now. After that's done and you still need to leave bc the cheating is affecting your mental health then as long as you're stable and have everything you need to be on your own tell him to F off and live your best life

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Play chess not checkers. Use him until you can leave him. But I wouldn’t sleep with him or even treat him like a husband, I would also start meeting other men who could be beneficial to you. When you meet other men it will also help you not to care what he is up to. This way you can stay focused on the end and not get distracted by his disrespect. Always exchange energy. Much love sent your way

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You got to think of everything would he try to get everything you built with your business because you “tricked” him? Would he do worse? I mean back in the day men still cheated but it always depends on if we are willing to work through it and have God work through your relationship by praying if you like to talk more I know your nervous on responses but you can message me I don’t judge promise

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I wouldn’t do revenge, because it’s not going to end well, just sit down with him and tell him how you feel, what goes around, comes around. He need to understand that, your feelings are very important. I just don’t understand why men do this, the more you talk to him and express how you feel, just be brutal honesty with him. It’s not fair texting other females while you guys are trying to build a family together. I can only pray that he will change. Good luck hun.

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Don’t confront him unless you are willing to leave if his behavior doesn’t change. Get your life in order and finish school then leave. Men think women will keep tolerating their BS. Focus on bettering yourself.

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