Hi! So just a few days ago i was 5 days late i took a test and it was positive! This is my 3rd pregnancy (2 miscarriages in the last year) and i just don’t feel excited anymore. These are different feelings i have never had. I was excited for a baby and I was excited for trying and having a family but it’s been so long (almost 2 years) of TTC that i just don’t feel the happy feels and i don’t feel ready now. I think a good chunk of it is I planned to go through IVF starting in the spring of 2024 and maybe I was just kind waiting for that? There is a possibility i could miscarriage again is that why i am feeling this way?
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Yes! I think now your brain is just trying to protect your heart based on what’s happened before. But you really don’t know— this baby just might stick and in time you’ll gain the happiest feels again and would careless about the future because the present is already here and the future is never promised.
🤍 congratulations love!

Pregnancy after loss is extremely difficult - it's very normal to feel what you are feeling. Your feelings are very valid.
I don't have much advice at the moment rather than just waiting it out (sorry - I'm hoping you get some other useful comments) I had a miscarriage before my current pregnancy and when I passed the week that I miscarried, I felt more reassured. Then again at 12 weeks I felt more reassured as miscarriage rates significantly drop. I also booked a private scan to help with my anxiety - is this possible for you? I also found out the gender at my private 16 week scan so I could celebrate that, and turn my anxiety into a positive. X

didn’t know that was a thing you could do! I’ll have to look into that, it’s also really nice to hear what im feeling is normal. thanks!

thank you! It helps to know that my feelings are valid during this time ❤️