Fear of threesomes

So I’ve only had 1 threesome in my life. I’m about to be 22 and my partner of almost a year wants a threesome. It’s his biggest fantasy and he wants to share to with me. I think it’s sweet and spicey that he wants to see me with another woman. I have always wanted to try sex with a woman but my last experience wasn’t exactly spectacular. My ex gas lit me into having one. I was early in my first and only pregnancy. He had convinced one of his coworkers to do it with us. I told my self if I just did it I’d find out it wasn’t so bad. Well my ex ended up spending most of the threesome with his coworker. I was crushed and it ruined my mood.. I was treated like an object while our third was being given the first class treatment.. my pride and ego were damaged.. now the opportunity has arisen again. my chance to be with a woman and enjoy it. But my mind creates all these false scenarios scaring me into believing it.. it makes me so sad that I can’t give my partner an experience that I am interested in as well. I trust my partner and know he wouldn’t ever cheat on me. My past is still chaining me down… I’ve made a list. Of my boundaries and shared them with my partner, he’s agreed to them but he’s a much looser person when it comes to boundaries. He sees no problem in treating the 3rd how he treats me when it’s just us.. and idk weather to call that a red flag or preference. He hasn’t forced me into anything but every now and then he brings it up And my heart sinks.. we looked into finding a third and then I panicked and backed out.. I am a person that doesn’t over come fear easy, but I wanna try I just don’t know what to do😭

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