Ferber method baby keeps crying

So I’ve decided to start sleep training my 6.5 month old using the Ferber method and I’ve seen on here that usually first time it takes about 15-20 minutes for the baby to fall asleep. But my baby is still crying 40 minutes later (I’m constantly checking in at intervals). I guess my question is how long do I keep trying for until I give up and help her fall asleep? I’ve also tried the chair method but it makes her cry worse seeing me there and not helping 😞

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What intervals are you going in at?
I go in literally every time after just 1minute of crying to pick him up and re settle- it’s working really well for us

The first night too 20 mins and can now do it usually by going in not more than 3 or 4 times

I was going in at 3,5 and 10 minutes as per the guidelines of Ferber. I eventually gave up at 45 minutes because I didn’t see her stopping any time soon and felt that was too long to let her cry as it is. Even though I was checking in on her I still felt really guilty 😞

The crying for 1minute was hard for me so well done on sticking to the method and going the whole 10mins, that must have been really tough.

Try going in after a short time, I just adapted the Ferber method as I didn’t like the idea of him crying so long. Then for naps I gave myself an end of 30mins- so if it took longer than that I was planning to rock him to sleep, and for bed time it was going to be an hour …. Luckily for us as of yet it hasn’t got that far

By knowing that you have a cap and end time I also found it made it a little less stressful for me as I knew I wasn’t going to let it go beyond an amount of time.

Hi! I recommend that you stop at an hour if your baby hasn’t settled. You can consider it practice and try again the next day. After the hour, your baby is going to be so tired that it’s best to get her to sleep as quickly as possible. Another tip, if you aren’t already doing this, is to wait to sleep train for naps until after you have worked on nights. Let baby gets lots of rest during the day so you aren’t going into sleep training at night already exhausted.

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