My baby hates the car seat!

My 4 month old screams every car journey in our nuna infant car seat, so now considering buying a new one that will hopefully last a few years. Has anyone had any luck with changing car seats that’s helped their baby stay calm during car journeys again?

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I found tucking the blanket in tightly with arms down like a swaddle helped. My little one used to also scream the car down on every journey without fail. I now try and time it to near a nap which has also helped

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My LO is 18 weeks. We have recently had to change from a removable car seat with the handle etc to a joie 360 spin seat (isofix) that he will be in now till he is approx 4yrs. This one does not obviously leave the car. Long story short, we borrowed a car seat from my sister in law and she needs it back, so we thought we might aswell get something that’s going to last. Anyway, LO would cry every time in the car, he never looked comfortable and suffered from reflux, so that didn’t help. Since changing to the bigger, fixed seat, which is suitable from birth to approx 4 years, he hasn’t cried at all. He looks so much happier, he can look about more, it reclines which helps and I don’t miss the removeable car seat at all.

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We also have the Nuna and my 16 week old screams almost every car journey. I find it so stressful. She loves to chew her hands and self soothes that way, so covering them or swaddling makes her more cross.
No advice but following to see if there's anything that might work.

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ah yes, I’ve been looking at the joie 360, good to hear it’s worked for you! My 4MO is nearly 17lbs, so I just think the infant car seats are way too restrictive for them. My sentiment is she’ll need a new car seat eventually anyway, so may as well bring it forward to see if she likes the new one

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I think a lot of people struggle with the nuna one. Great when they’re tiny, but not good when they get bigger. My little girl HATES any form of restriction. Never liked swaddling, even as a tiny newborn

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It's so annoying isn't it! It puts me off going anywhere because it's so stressful every time

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Lee started with the same car seat and my babe haaaaaated it! When we took out the infant inserts, it helped a lot and then eventually we got a convertible car seat. He now loveees the convertible and hardly cries unless he’s obviously tired

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I would highly recommend the Joie 360 spin. It’s compact aswell so doesn’t take up huge amounts of room on the car. My LO was just over 17lbs at his last health visitor appointment, so will be bigger again now, and I’m so glad I changed when I did. We had the same thinking, we have to upgrade him at some point, so why not now. He is much better in the car and is always happy to get in. Hope this helps. This is the seat we got: https://www.johnlewis.com/joie-baby-spin-360-gti-i-size-car-seat/shale/p6163983?s_ppc=2dx_mixed_fashion_BAU&tmad=c&tmcampid=2&gad_source=1&gclid=EAIaIQobChMIwJzM_M20hAMV2YtQBh1BdATiEAQYASABEgI7B_D_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds

You can find it cheaper on other sites but we had vouchers for John Lewis. It’s also I-size tested which is a major bonus and being joie, they test their seats above the standard of 30mph. Keep an eye out for that as some brands only test to the standard of 30mph, which in my eyes isn’t sufficient enough. Videos on TikTok about it all.

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ah wonderful, thank you so much for the advice! I’m going to go and have a look at this car seat today 🙌🏻 really hoping this helps… don’t think I can do many more screaming car journeys!!

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We having same issue and funny enough ours is a nuna too 🤔 we had already bought the ickle bubba spin seat ready to transition to in a sale. so will give that a try see if any difference hope it works for all us struggling! 🙏

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hope it works for you Abbie! Would love to hear how you get on

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