Breastfeeding

I make a lot of milk and suddenly I have no more milk it’s not even enough for a feed… somebody help me
We are going on formula tonight as the milk supply will not be enough for him again….

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Why do you think your supply is low?

to be honest I really dont know…

if baby is gaining weight ok, has enough wet/poop diapers, you're probably fine!

How long have you been breastfeeding? Your supply is probably just regulating, which means your breasts won't feel full or hard anymore.

Hand express some-- I'm sure there's milk in there!

I've been EBF for 11 months now. Feel free to message me!

Just 10weeks

yes doesn’t fell full nor hard, he’s cries when he sucks and has got nothing
Even with the pump I get just a little

milk supply may vary. Drink plenty of water, do massages to help increase lactation, do regular breast pump sessions, but remember that your child is your best breast pump and it is he who will improve your lactation the most. If she cries while breastfeeding, have you checked if she has tounge tie or lip tie?

@he cries because he couldn’t get milk out and when I gave him the one expressed in the bottle he finished it and slept

oh I see I see. I think supplementing with formula is probably a good idea then. Keep pumping too in the meantime and see if you can't get things back up.

Formula is not bad, this is why it exists!

Make sure you are drinking enough water, eating enough and getting as much sleep as possible (I realize the ridiculousness of telling a mom with a new born to sleep more) those things all affect your supply and so does stress if you don't know how to handle it properly. Exercise, fresh air, journaling, what e er you need to process the stress of having a newborn is important.

thank you!

You only make as much milk as there is demand for so if you supplement (which is not bad) then make sure you are pumping or hand expressing each time you supplement.

My lactation consultant recommended I let baby feed first on both sides twice (left, right, left, right) to trigger multiple let downs before supplementing.

There is a growth spurt at around 12 weeks so baby may become a bit fussy at the breast. This is usually to encourage your body to make more milk so you might find baby suckling for longer and more frequently. They are stimulating your breasts to increase the supply for them. This can look like you don’t have any but it most likely isn’t if you have had a good feeding journey so far…
Soft breast are also an sign that your body is regulating to baby’s needs. As above, if you supplement with formula make sure to pump a full feed even if nothing comes out.

Also pumping does not show you how much milk you can produce. Baby is so much more effective. With my first i could pump loads but with my second hardly anything! But we are still bfeeding 15 months on

Make sure you're drinking enough water, I found that dropped my supply quickly xx

I your supply is still low, try fenugreek supplements from a health shop like Holland and Barrett. When I couldn't get pretty much anything, that bought my supply up in about 4 days so I could continue breastfeeding. But you need to either pump or put him on the boob in that time xx

Make sure you’re drinking plenty of water, try not to get yourself stressed out, a warm shower helps with the breast

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How to help my husband understand why I'd like to breastfeed

My husband is very supportive, but he is also someone who wants to make things as easy and as stress free as possible.

With our first child, I tried to breastfeed, but due to my own medical issues postpartum, baby and I were separated a lot and my milk dried up so quickly. We introduced formula around 2 weeks PP, and I tried pumping as much as I could, but it just lead to nothing. It was heartbreaking. It definitely ruined a lot of those early weeks for me, I was wrecked with guilt and sadness. I cried every day and felt like such a failure.

Now my son is a healthy, happy 2 year old and I eventually came to terms with formula feeding him. He was quite content with the first formula we tried, never had feeding or gas issues etc, so it felt like a much easier option.

Obviously my husband witnessed all of this and now we're expecting our second baby, he sort of assumed we'd just go straight to formula.

I told him pretty early that I'd like to try breastfeeding again, and although I won't be putting so much pressure on myself this time, I've also done more research and I'm more prepared for the hard times that might come up in the early days/weeks, and I'm trying to prepare for any complications.

He's very supportive and says it's totally up to me and hasn't tried to sway me either way, but I do get a feeling the moment things get difficult PP he will automatically be buying formula. And he won't mean it in a bad way, he'll just be trying to make things easier for me and take off the pressure. He won't understand that it's unhelpful.

His thinking is that as long as baby is fed that's all that matters, and I agree mostly! But I also understand how beneficial breastfeeding can be and want to give it all my effort if I'm able!

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