At this point I’m not enjoying motherhood

My 22 month old is horrendous at the moment🫣 biting, hitting, pushing, pulling and shoving not only adults but children he also wants what other children have and will just snatch it away from them.

We repeat ‘nice hands’ ‘be gentle’ ‘let’s share’ etc

But how do I make him understand what he’s doing isn’t very nice? At the end of the day I feel like I’ve just been saying his name all day and nothing else.

What can I do?

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Maybe try to redirect the behaviour, if he bites give him a teether, if he hits give him something that mimics that motion. Not many young children can comprehend full sentences and only listen to snippets so maybe hes just struggling to comprehend the information or instructions you are giving him.

I'm not an expert by any means as my boy no way near this age yet but heard tht redirection can be really useful e.g. if they are doing something u don't want them too just get and say can you show me your favourite toy/ do you want to go outside/ watch fav film etc etc not nessisarily reward for bad behaviour but just ignoring the bad behaviour and distracting again I've not tried this bit just read it online

My little one had bitting period. He was trying boundaries. Redirecting him without saying words about his behaviour helped and he just stopped.

Redirection for sure

I walked away whenever my son did something I didn’t want him to do

As he got older, I used techniques as taking things away from him

When he needs a chill out, we sit with a book

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If you are going to be rude or insensitive to others, don’t comment on this post.

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Hi, not expecting a diagnosis obviously but maybe just some opinions and or advice. I have a nearly 4 month old. I’ve been to my doctor re my mental health and they have told me to do a self referral for some talk therapy but it looks like it could take a few months. I’m really struggling but I don’t know if it’s a normal amount as a new first time mum or something more. I feel very low a lot of the time, crying most days but not every day, feeling isolated (no mum friends), feeling like I’m not enjoying being a mum as much as I hoped, missing my old life and freedom, struggling with patience and the constant crying and fussing, feeling like it’s Groundhog Day, jealous of my husbands life, feeling like I’m not doing a good enough job, worrying I’m not doing things well enough and it will negatively affect her, only feeling better when I have people with me who know about kids and can step in and help eg in laws etc. I have tried hard to work on being positive, I get out for multiple walks every day, I’ve joined a sensory class, I’m on this app but I feel like none of it is really working or doing much. I feel like I’m ticking boxes of things that should help but I’m not making any mum friends and honestly a lot of the time it feels like I’m masking. Sometimes I get so upset and cry and I can’t really explain why….

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