Rant…

We’re planning on not finding out the baby’s sex until birth and went for an elective ultrasound this weekend. I was very clear with the woman when I made the appointment and again when we arrived. The baby was a little difficult to see because my placenta was in the way and we really didn’t look at genital areas but I can’t keep thinking about something she said..she slightly stuttered after my older son asked a question and said “sh..did you see their hands earlier” or something along those lines. She then later told us that she didn’t know the babies gender and it wasn’t in any of the photos we were given if people tried to “read them”…I just can’t tell if she made an honest mistake or accidentally slipped up but I’m trying not to be upset. I just know that this isn’t going to leave my head and I hate thinking that the surprise may be ruined.

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I’m sorry this happened to you!! I know that I personally call all babies he until we know just out of habit! My first was a boy so maybe that’s why! I know people who refer to them as she’s until they know! Maybe that’s how she is and she stopped because she didn’t want to make you think it was a girl when she doesn’t know!

I totally understand and your feelings are valid! I don’t really understand why it’s so hard for people to understand that some people don’t want to know what gender their baby is. Gender isn’t a key variable during pregnancy!! I am frustrated with you. I hope it wasn’t her accidentally slipping up too. I hope that going forward all your techs respect your decision not to know.

I feel your pain. We are hoping to wait also and the tech called baby “buddy” which now is making me feel like it’s a boy 🙃 I think about it everyday and it’s really frustrating but I have just been reminding myself that I still don’t know for sure and so it will still be a surprise!!

My doctor called baby a guy and I thought she had ruined it but turns out it’s a girl! Sometimes people just call baby’s she or he but don’t mean it. I hope that’s the case here! I am sorry that happened

Literally the same exact thing happened to me!

I had the exact same thing happen to me and I lay there for most of the ultrasound thinking ‘omg she just told me it was a boy’, but then she did it again and I realised she said ‘bubby’

Ouuuuuuu see!!! It’s still a mystery!!!

If you aren't sure and are questioning if maybe the sex was revealed then guess what...you still don't know and it's still a surprise.

Aye, I specifically told my doctor I don't want to know the gender of my first child because we hadn't done the gender reveal party yet. Then during the appt she literally said he is a big boy 😒🙃😒🙃😒😒

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Oh my God, oh my God I hope this is not true!!!! I’m kind of scared

I’ve been throwing up and taking a shit all night!!! I just hope that it’s not what I think it is

Small head reported following 20 week scan

Has anyone else had it flagged that their baby is in the bottom 5th percentile for head size?

They said everything was fine whilst we were in the scan and then I got a phone call the next day saying that it’s on the small side and we’re being referred to a paediatric specialist at St George’s. Has anyone else had this and how did things go??

Would you bring 9 week old to a family party of 35+ people?

These are also people who will want to pass the baby around and get a turn to hold him. He just got his 2 month shots two days ago

Exercise 6 weeks after c section

What movement did people start to introduce? I won’t do anything too vigorous until I’ve seen the pelvic physio as I don’t want to compromise anything that may have been extremely weakened through pregnancy! But just wondering what types of classes/movement people started off with?

Induction experience

I just wanted to share my experience with being induced as I wasn’t sure what to expect and thought it may help others.

I opted for the foley balloon which was inserted at 8am Saturday morning, I had to stay in hospital due to hypertension and protein urine however usually you can just go home once this has been done. The insertion of the balloon was not painful, was slightly uncomfortable as there was slight pressure. I actually found having the cervix checked prior to be worse (again not painful at this point just uncomfortable) The balloon had little effect and after having it removed I was still only 1cm. Removal also was pain free and hardly even noticeable.

I then had my first dose of the gel and definitely noticed a difference, I started experiencing period like cramps almost immediately however they were light and manageable. After 6 hours I had another cervix check and although my cervix was soft it was still only 1cm and was only open at the front. I had another dose of the gel and felt an increase in pressure and more intense cramping where I now required pain relief (codeine). After another 6 hours I had another cervix check and I had now dilated to 2-3cm however was still quite difficult to get all the way through so a third gel was recommended which I agreed to.

Almost immediately I noticed the difference and was in considerable pain, I had paracetamol and codeine however the contractions had now become intense and a lot closer together (around 3 minutes apart). After a couple of hours I had my last cervix check and was 4cm and taken down to the Labour ward to have my waters broken and an epidural.

I had been in my room for approx 20minutes when my waters broke by themselves and I was now 10cm and actively pushing…. There was no time for the epidural and my beautiful girl arrived into the world within 2 minutes of pushing.

All in all I would say the cramps/contractions were manageable up until the third gel where it became pretty unbearable however it was for a very short time a gas and air helped take the edge off. The worst part about any of it was actually the later cervix checks where after stimulating the cervix my contractions were at their most painful.

If I had to be induced again I would skip the balloon and opt for the gels immediately as thy had a quicker effect and I would have been out a lot sooner if I had done this to begin with.

One more thing, I’ve never believed when people say “you forget the pain once they’re here” but I can honestly say this is true. It’s been 4 days and I would do it all again in a heartbeat.

Anyone else experiencing this?

Gave birth (vagina) 5 days ago and yesterday morning and this morning getting lot of pain in my right bottom side and lower back