Thinking of Separating
Hi all,
I have a one year old daughter and things are not going well between me and my husband.
I used to earn more and had a permanent job and he was always in and out of jobs. He is not serious about his career at all. Does not like to cook or clean. Refuses to do nappy changes or bath time with our daughter. He only likes to play with her at his convenience.
I had to spend all my savings on groceries last year when i went on maternity leave and now i am left with no money.
He told me that i should quit my job and apply for job seeker payments or i can go to work and pay for childcare and contribute towards household expenses.
The question is that i really want to leave but i don't have any family or friends here. I would need money to rent my own place and divorce lawyer quoted me $5k. I don't have any money. I feel i am stuck.
Right now i am working part time and all the money is going to the daycare fee.
I feel numb when i think about all this I don't know what to do.
@Michelle we have been married for about six years now, i have booked and paid for a couple counselling sessions and he refused to join. He did not even show up. So whenever i have a conversation with him about his career, he agrees to everything i say but then there is no action. He was jobless for two years of our marriage and then he found casual hours at coles for another two years. He is behind on paying bills and everything he is paying for is on zip pay or afterpay. He is 36 years old and i do not see him changing. Since our daughter was born i feel exhausted as i am doing house chores(cooking cleaning,laundry,dishwasher load and unload, looking after baby and also spent all the money that I saved. Now i am asking friends to give me money so i can go to work by train. I don't even have enough money to pay for my phone bill or even buy lunch at work.