Prolonged hospital stay - mum guilt

I had my baby on the 18th Feb, and I've been in hospital since the 17th Feb! I've had a few infections but hoping things will be ok soon.

I'm feeling the worst mum guilt that my baby hasn't been home since birth .. has anyone gone through the same thing? Was your baby impacted by it at all?

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I went into hospital on 27th October, had my baby on the 30th October, and was able to go home on the 2nd November. Not as long as you’ve been in there for, but it felt like forever!

Please don’t feel guilty! I understand exactly how you feel though, being away from home right now is especially hard. I can reassure you that my baby wasn’t impacted at all, in fact we had the opposite - she was restless and not sleeping well while in the hospital because of all the noise, so once home we were both so much more relaxed and happy.
But most importantly, congratulations and I hope you’re both well and be home soon!

For your baby, home is where you are mama!! Don’t you worry about your LO, what’s important is that you get the treatment you need ❤️

I went home on day 2 and was back into hospital at night on day 5 and stayed until day 9. The baby doesn’t know and it’s best you’re in the right place. Enjoy the extra support while you’re there!!

Thanks so much ladies.. I ended up staying in hospital for 16 days with maternal sepsis. Thankfully I was okay and able to go home baby girl seems to be doing great! I did see all of your messages at the time and felt massively reassured but amongst the madness forgot to reply!

Thank you ❤️

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