Anxious to take baby out. Help

My boyfriend works in Nottingham and really want to meet him out of work with the baby but I’ve never traveled that far with the baby on my own.
It’s about an hour away on the train and I’m really anxious about the journey.
I’ve got all her stuff ready her and myself but I’m in two minds weather to go or not. She’s at the stage where she screams if she’s tired but won’t go to sleep and don’t really fancy dealing with that on the train but I’m always stuck inside and think it would do us both good.
Anyone got any tips on how I could make this as smooth as possible with a 10 week old 😞

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Go! Do it!
Feed baby, wind, clean nappy etc right before you go so that you know she’s as settled as she can be. What does help her go to sleep?
I always find that things seem worse in my head than they do in reality. I’ve been anxious at times about having both my children for trips out or whatever, and it’s never been as bad as I’ve thought 😊 You might just surprise yourself. And it’ll feel empowering to do it either way- because even if it goes wrong, you will manage it and be okay, and then nothing with phase you!

I find baby is good as gold when we’re out vs when stuff in the house, she sleeps really well in the pushchair:) I’d go absolutely crazy stuck inside, my advice is to go out as much as possible- when my son was little I took him shopping, to restaurants, the beach, festivals, train journeys to visit grandparents etc and it was great for my confidence, made me feel like I could do anything:)

Thanks. I think I’m gunna do it. I’m just worried she’s going to be cold etc also but I think if I don’t do it I’ll regret it. Just going to put my big girl pants on and go for it xx

yes go for it! Just dress her well but in something simple you can quickly unzip or take off in the train, and a blanket. Even if it's a disaster, even though I'm sure it won't be, you'll know what to do different next time. Let us know how it goes 😊

I felt the same before taking my baby on train and out and about and I was so surprised with how calm it made her and she slept the whole time!!
Do it 🤍🤍

you’d be suprised at how good she will be with a lot going on around her … just do it

I think I’m too late to throw advice in but you can do it!!!! I always have a cafe in my head where I can regroup if needed that is baby friendly where u can feed and change. But honestly you’ll be fine ❤️

Do it! I always feel like my wee one is very chilled when we’re out and about… when we’re stuck in the house he goes a bit crazy 🤪

I went and it wasn’t that bad. She’s been crying a lot but it’s been manageable. My boyfriend was thrilled so that made it all worth it.
It’s been hard but definitely not as hard as I imagined it would be. Glad I went. Very thankful for this app it definitely helps massively xx

Proud of you, ! Next time I'll be easier, and so on until it's a breeze and second nature to you!

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