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I need advice/ rant

So I’m 13 weeks with my baby girl and my fiancé and I both have kids from past relationships, this is our first baby together. We were talking earlier and my ex and his girlfriend had a baby back in December, also a girl, and have been giving us a bunch of baby clothes and maternity clothes and stuff. Me and his girlfriend have a friendship we talk throughout the week and like actually have a relationship, I wasn’t even going to invite her to the baby shower I thought that might be weird. My finance keeps saying it would be the “right thing to do” to invite his ex wife to my baby shower. I have no relationship with her, and I told him I would not be comfortable with her being at the shower and he keeps saying like “well she is the baby’s sisters mom” and like idk that just doesn’t make sense to me. It would be one thing if we were close and had a relationship but I don’t know her. We’ve been together for 5 months they were together for almost 5 years and got divorced last January, he broke up with her. He makes dumb jokes calling us “Eskimo sisters” and stupid stuff like that and I always tell him like too soon I’m still processing through unresolved feelings about her I don’t like her through the way I’ve seen her parent or lack of parent my step daughter and doesn’t show up for her half the time and what I’ve heard about her through other people in his life who knew him when they were together. I just think it’s unfair of him to ask me to invite her without A. Asking how I feel and B. Listening when I say I don’t want her there. She already comes to his family functions like the superbowl party and now to Easter brunch this Sunday which already makes me feel out of place and awkward like I’m the outsider and my kids are a burden cuz she’s his family and his family’s family it’s like I’m watching what their life would have been if she hadn’t left him. She left him and now she’s coming to all his family events. And yall know how it is when the girl leaves the guy he never gets over it at least not in a year.