Partner crisis

After I had my kids me and my husband don’t do like anything together…. We bearly stay in the same room for like an hour….he doesn’t “chase me” never tells me I’m pretty or ask me on dates or anything I’m frustrated as all heck!! Even doing the dirty is just bland. If I try to start it he says no. It’s only when he wants it …. Does anyone else go threw this with there partner or maybe I’m looking to hard into it.? Maybe I’m unattractive after having kids gosh please I need imput