A rollercoster of a pregnancy so far!

Currently 20 weeks 3 days and since our 12 week scan we’ve been through the works! During our 12 week anatomy scan they let us know they were struggling to see baby’s right arm and that it was likely just bent up against body. We were referred to Maternal Fetal Medicine for a ultrasound at 13 weeks. At this ultrasound they confirmed that baby had unfortunately not developed their right forearm or hand. But due to baby’s size and position it was difficult to see much else. I was then booked for a amniocentesis at 15 weeks and follow up ultrasound at 16 weeks. *let me put add in here quickly, the amniocentesis SUCKED.* At this stage we’ve accepted that baby will be left handed and that’s fine. We can support them through it. Everything else looked fine. Week 16 ultrasound: they see a single artery umbilical cord, suspect a heart abnormality and the kidneys appear enlarged, they think they see cysts. Baby is still too small to see much. Amniocentesis came back clear so we’re pushing for further genetic testing. We’re prepared with the worst case scenarios and reassured they’ll support us which ever way we want to go with the pregnancy. We want more answers of course. Last week we had a echocardiogram on baby’s heart - good news they have a common and minor heart defect that will not require surgery. This Monday we have our 20 week gestation ultrasound. I was so nervous. At our 16 week meeting with the doctor they advised that baby could be in dialysis for first year of life, have to go interstate for heart surgery or worst case not survive after birth. My husband and I were a mess that last few weeks, trying to keep it together for our other 3 kids. Baby’s right kidney has not developed correctly however left is perfect and functioning. They may need the right kidney removed at a later date. Even better the further genetic testing came back clear! I just wanted to share this because I haven’t had anyone to really open up to. But also because if we had just gone off the information shared at 16 weeks we’d have likely terminated. Waiting those extra few weeks (as emotionally overwhelming as they were) we were able to make a informed decision on our baby. I cannot wait for August when I get to meet baby number 4 and give him so much love ❤️