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I wouldn't say your an a hole. However if this is something you do daily maybe tell him you do not have time this morning that he needs to pack his lunch today or to help with the kids while you get it together. He's a grown ass man he can do something to get pissy about it is silly.
Nah, he's a grown ass man he can make his own lunch, u was dealing with kids x
@Brianna this is the best answer… i try to give leeway when he’s early in the morning or right after work. I know i’ve given plenty of attitude after my long work shifts or even before. He was probably just really excited for his lunch & then realized he wouldn’t be having it last second on the way out the door.
Like a toddler
@Katy that’s very understandable… however it was made just not packed in the lunch bag it was ready just in the fridge I normally get it all ready for him to just grab and go
Absolutely not. You're dealing with more important stuff than packing lunch for a grown man. The fact you continued to do this with twins and he didn't bother to volunteer to take that responsibility for himself is more the problem IMO.
aww you sound like such a sweet partner🤍 guys are so entitled tbh… it depends how they were raised. I had a conversation last night with my 100% Polish 1st generation husband about being more respectful & stop putting me down even if he doesn’t realize. Like he always huffs & puffs when i ask him to get an extra sauce/side. Last night i purposefully ordered an extra side of parmesan for our takeout italian. He got a caesar salad & i asked for a side of parm for my pasta & he straight up took the cup of chz & dumped it on his caesar even though he knew it was for my entree. He assumed there was another second cup in there & i was like no you didn’t get an entree… honestly i kinda freaked bc i hate double standards & hypocrites. My sister married a Jewish guy & although he can be arrogant he does all the house hold chores & will do anything she asks lol must be nice. Anyways maybe try brushing it off there’s bigger battles to pick. Sometimes that’s what my friends tell me & it helps lol
@Katy thank you for that! Maybe it wasn’t as big of a deal it was just very annoying and upsetting at that moment because I was already busy and irritated
It seems like some dad's think we should be in charge of cleaning, getting groceries, cooking and taking care of the kids and they go to work. My husband is that way... He spends very little time with our son, even on days he doesn't work... Expects me to make work lunch for him too
He needs to get a grip. In his situation, what would you do? I know I would be like, "No worries, I'll grab something out!"...smh.
I’m sorry but he doesn’t sound grown up that he can’t just pick the lunch out of the fridge. He should be ashamed of himself honestly. 🤦🏼♀️
It sounds like you got spoilt big kid,he should be making you a cup of tea before he goes to work,dose he realize he is not the babies
It sounds like you got spoilt big kid,he should be making you a cup of tea before he goes to work,dose he realize he is not the babies
Even if a precedent is set where you're ok with making his lunch every day, if you're busy or babies are unsettled it's very selfish to get upset at you for not making a lunch. Sure you can communicate it to him that you didn't get time but he's a brat if he behaves like that. But that being said precedent is also set where you do all that for him so of course he's going to be spoilt and then bratty if he doesn't get what he wants. It's wrong that he is but it's the situation you've both created I'd be talking it through and working on both adjusting expectations and not enabling a spoilt spouse and him not acting bratty
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Cor, I would never ever be making lunch for that man again 🤣 how entitled is he? Sorry but you can’t make your own lunch?! Anything you do like that is out of the goodness of your heart and should not be expected it’s just an added bonus if one morning you’ve done it for him, he is not a child, he can make his own lunch and his reaction is even more of a piss take 🤣 feel like some men get like this when they’ve been so used to you doing everything for them and they take it for granted, cut back on doing this stuff for him and he’ll soon learn! When me and my partner moved in together I made sure to set quite strict boundaries with myself in terms of what I will and won’t do/allow because I am not babying no man! And he is so helpful and we do all the chores together or take it in turns to do certain things, I know I am very lucky with him but I do wonder if it may have been different if I didn’t set the boundaries straight away 🤣
Take a chill pill mate. You can deal with the kids if you want your lunch.