Arguing with parents

So today I went to my parents house as they invited me for lunch. Me, my sisters and my dad were having a normal conversation we were laughing about something that happened years ago and then he started randomly shouting at me. It was very strange. I got upset and I left. Growing up I've not had the greatest childhood because of my had and I've never had a great relationship with him. He's been a strict parent, violent and not very understanding. As an adult of just put it in the past and tried to be civil. I don't want my child to grow up with people arguing for no reason. My in laws also don't speak to me because they think I should be a traditional wife and cook and clean for them but I don't live with them. It's been two years they've not spoken to me. I feel like the same thing is going to happen with my dad. I feel low I feel like I'm the problem but I also don't want my child to grow up in that environment. Me and husband are south asian