Venting

Am I wrong for being upset that I’m not able to get “breaks”? I had a lunch date planned w a friend w just us two. My husband told me, he won’t be able to watch our daughter because he has something important to do around the same time I’m suppose to be leaving. I had tried to plan it around her nap time so it’ll be easier for him..it gets really upsetting sometimes because he can always up & leave when he pleases because he never has to worry about who’s gonna watch our daughter because she’s mainly w me. He only interacts w her when she’s “playing”. He can nap when it wants to, eats when he wants to, use the restroom when he wants to. When he does watch her, he’s so clueless about everything. Where’s the diapers? Where’s the cream? Doesn’t even try to look for it. I get he works both at work & at home but for someone who claims they understand what I’m going thru, they truly don’t & it’s so tiring. I try to talk to him & he just continues to say that no one helps or knows how to do the things he does around the house( renovations) so for us to live comfortably his focus is on that instead of being a parent. Pls tell me if I’m overreacting or not

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not overreacting AT ALL! You deserve “ me time” too not just him. He should be able to take a couple hours to watch HIS baby so that you can hangout with friends. I would be FURIOUS if I were in that situation.

@Maile and that’s what really upsets me is that it wasn’t even gonna be that long. Just an hr & in that hr she’s most likely gonna be sleep. I don’t mind taking my baby everywhere w me but sometimes you just need that time without any worries.

Oh hell no I tell him days in advance so he can’t make plans last minute. He knows every Friday is MY night he can’t take that away from me. But even if I make plans last minute, as long as he doesn’t have plans himself he’s fine to look after baby. What is SO important he needs to do, that it can’t wait? Like seriously. You made plans, you literally had a gf waiting?? Ohhhhhh I would be pissed if that happened here but he knows that. Like last Friday (my night remember?) that was the only night he could make a boys night coz that’s the only night that week his boys were free 🙄 so he came home at 10 (out since 5) and he tagged in and I tagged out, he walked in, I was all ready (toddler alseep already) I literally grabbed my keys at 10 and left. 😂 And I take way longer than an hr. He can’t even look after his own baby for ONE HOUR?! C’monnnnmn that’s not fair to you AT ALL. That’s total BS.

Could have wrote this myself. Something ALWAYS comes up when I have plans (which is very rare anyway). I actually woke him up today and said I’m going out here’s the baby, it was 11am and I’ve been stuck in the house all week and needed some peace. Right here with you mama

@Kellie exactly. I wouldn’t have a problem, if he tried to meet me halfway, but I doubt that’s ever gonna happen

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