Postpartum depression

I just had my 4th baby 3 weeks ago by C-section and she has been in the Nicu. I had only gotten to spend about what was equal to about 48 hours with her due to having to recover from my surgery. I had to leave the hospital on March 17th and only get to go to the hospital about once a week due to her being over a hour away. I’m pumping all the time and freezing my milk my postpartum depression is bad. She has had to have 2 brain surgeries already and has no sucking motion and has not been able to eat other than through a feeding tube. She has very little brain matter and is going to have a lot of developmental problems. How do you guys deal with postpartum depression? Anyone else have/had a baby in the nicu? I feel like the worst mother in the world having to leave her there
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I just try to focus on taking it one day at a time… even tho it gets hard… then try again and again every day. 🖤

@sнαιηα I been trying it’s just so hard because no one I know has been through anything like this. It’s hard for someone to understand if they don’t know what you’re going through. It’s getting a little easier but not much

I’m so sorry this is happening to you and your family. My baby was in the nicu for one week after birth due to breathing issues. So I can only imagine what you’re going through with it being an extended stay. The only thing that really helped me was taking lots of videos whenever I was with her and watching them on repeat when we were separated. It’s such an awful feeling being separated from your baby. I hope both you and her are okay xx

My 1st was born at 35 weeks with a Congenital Heart Defect. She was in NICU for 7 days and had open heart surgery at 5 months. She was 4lbs 4oz. She is now 5 years old. My 2nd was induced at 38 weeks because of IUGR (Intrauterine Growth Restriction) and she was 4lbs on the dot. She was in NICU for 5 days. It is heartbreakingly common for parents of NICU babies to have PTSD. I had PPD with my 2nd and felt robbed that I never got the experience of having my baby in the room with me. They were far away in NICU and I had to leave the hospital before them. I joined support groups for heart warriors and NICU survivors. And I got therapy for my PPD. That was the only way I made it back to being me. Best of luck on your journey too.

You're not the worst are the best mom, because you know your baby is in the best hands and is receiving the very best care! You are doing great mom!! My son wasn't in the nicu, but we were separated for the first 2 weeks of his life. The pregnancy itself was hard...plagued with an extreme case of HG. Then i had an emergency c-section at 37 weeks due to having a really severe case of COVID. I saw him for a couple min after they pulled him out, then they wheeled him out of the room. I then saw him 2 days later right before he was discharged. They allowed me to double mask, double robe, and double glove to feed him for 5 long as I didnt breathe directly on him or touch any part of his skin. Then upon release he couldn't go home because the house was exposed to COVID. I also had to quarantine from him for 10 additional days. I didn't get skin to skin with him until he was 2 weeks old. That 2 weeks was very lonely and I went to a really dark place. I was in a dark space for a while after.

I started going to therapy to work on my issues...and that is what slowly helped clear up my pp depression. So, though I didn't have a sick baby, I understand what being away from them does to your mental health. It gets better hun....good luck to you

I had my wee girls at 28weeks by emergency c section I didn't get to see her until she was 2 days old 3 days after section I was discharged without my baby, she was in nicu for 3 months it is the hardest thing to ever go through as a new mother it doesn't get easier until ur baby is with u. I wish u the very best and hope u get ur baby home soon, if u ever need to get things off ur chest ur more than welcome to chat with me

Thank you guys so much.. I’m trying. I was never one of those people who wanted their child out of my room after I had them. Like I can’t even feed her when I see her cuz she can’t eat out of a bottle yet. It has taken a toll on the whole household. It just doesn’t feel right not having her here. I’m trying to get back to normal but it’s definitely hard. She is doing much better and hopefully can come home soon

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