Can only handle my toddler in small amounts

How do you cope with weekends? I dread them. There’s no break. He’s very high maintenance, refuses his pram, highly emotional, not good at playing independently, a bad sleeper. Every weekend I end up extremely stressed or wishing time away. I’m just a 💩 Mum for feeling like this.

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I don't work and I feel like this most days especially the past month my mental health has suffered so much. My sons never slept through the night either in his life so it piles on. I know exactly how you feel , not 100% sure if it's normal but this has been the worst phase for us so far as he's just turned 2, not a lot of advice unfortunately just here to say I'm exactly the same some days , today has been really bad and I'm so ready for bedtime and the guilt cripples me 💔x

A lot more Tv that I would like and lots of outdoor play if the weather permits. Not much advice, just to say we’re in a similar boat.

I feel you, I find making plans like softplay or just going to the park or catching up with friends and other mums makes time fly

He sounds exactly like my son!! I find getting out the house the most helpful thing as it’s such a lot of hours to kill in the house with a toddler who won’t play independently! We go to groups or classes or to museums, the park, soft play etc.
Also is there anything you could use instead of a pram if he refuses it? My little boy stopped using his at 7 months as he absolutely refused and the screaming was too stressful for me, so we’ve experimented with different things. At the moment I use a back carrier or he has a scooter with a seat on and a handle I can push him along on. I know lots of toddlers like those trikes too x

It’s so so hard but the best thing you can do is work on the way you react to these things and accept these little people with big feelings and immature brains won’t always meet our adult expectations, I’ve found some accounts on ig which have really helped me in some difficult moments

https://www.instagram.com/the.dad.vibes?igsh=MTV0dncxNGdsY3pkZw==

https://www.instagram.com/nurturedfirst?igsh=MTYzamNvczkwMXhsdQ==

https://www.instagram.com/dr.siggie?igsh=eWxvOWp0ZHV1NnB6

https://www.instagram.com/dr.martha.psychologist?igsh=MTB1ejN5ZzViaWN3

https://www.instagram.com/themompsychologist?igsh=azJjYXFmOTg2dnlt

https://www.instagram.com/transformingtoddlerhood?igsh=ZjA2MTVmYjE2cjQx

I follow loads so let me know if you want any others!

Sorry that’s loads, I’ve saved/learnt so much from those pages though hope others might find them helpful too 🙂

https://www.instagram.com/caringparent?igsh=MThnczg5eW0zbGtqMw==

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Is this normal

Let’s say you’re at a softplay with your 2 year old, and some friends & their toddlers.
You buy your 2 year old a kids meal - chicken nuggets, beans, and chips. They’re very happy with it and have almost eaten it all.
They’re sat at the table, fork in hand, consistently eating, and have one chicken nugget left.
Your adult friend comes over from behind you, picks up the last chicken nugget, and eats it.
There was no indication that your child wasn’t going to eat it, and they didn’t ask. They just took it with no warning and ate it right in front of you and your toddler.
How you reacting?

Are these men ok?

I get so sad seeing all the posts on here daily about women dealing with partners who are treating them horribly. I know it seems over represented because those of us with great partners don’t need to write posts asking for help, but I really hope most of us don’t have these kinds of men in our lives!

I tell my husband about these posts I see sometimes and he’s even shocked by some of the things these guys say/do.

Nobody’s perfect, and every relationship takes work. And becoming parents is a stress test unlike any other for sure, but seeing how many women get stuck in these relationships with men who aren’t interested in being better is so so sad😞

But is/was your partner helpful, loving, and supportive during your pregnancy/PP/etc? Was he a wonderful person but changed for the worst after becoming a parent? Has he put effort into becoming the partner you need him to be, even if he struggles?

Car issues

Idk if I’m in the wrong. I have a full time job. My husband takes care of the kids while I worked. Today was the day I was supposed to get us a car. But I couldn’t cause of the down payment. So now he’s texting me saying I’m wasting his day to be alone at Walmart so he can spend his tax return. I really want to say go ahead. Leave. Leave the kids and me alone. While you go out and spend money. While your at go ahead and buy urself your drugs and a bitch to go fuck.

Lucky I’m even thinking about him about the car situation if not I would’ve been buying me and the kids a car small enough for us!

Nursery lunches?

My daughter is nearly 10 months old and starting nursery next month. I want to send my daughter in with lunches so I know shes eating healthy meals but I'm honestly so lost as to what to put in her little bento lunch box that will keep till lunch time and doesnt need reheating. Ive been doing loads of baby led weaning at home, but I tend to make it fresh or pull stuff from the freezer I've previously made and defrost and reheat.
Could you show me some of the lunches you've been giving your baby? Or have you been been letting the nursery deal with the food?

THIS DUMB 🍑 MF

LET ME BREAK IT DOWN 🤣🤣

THIS MAN DRIVES AN ELECTRIC CAR WHERE HE CAN PLUG HIMSELF IN (NORMALLY DOES TO DO DOORDASH ETC)
AND IT HAD A SPOT TO WIRELESSLY CHARGE
SOME HOW WITH 4 HOURS OF WORKING HE DIDN'T EVEN MAKE 20 BUCKS TO WASH CLOTHS ANOTHER RED FLAG

TWO NIGHTS AGO
HE CLAIMS TO GO OUT TO WORK. HANGS UP ON ME MID CONVERSATION 👀👀

4 HOURS PAST I'M GETTING SLEEPY STILL HAVEN'T HEARD FROM HIM
IT'S LIKE 1:30AM I TEXT HIM NIGHT I'M MAD CONFUSED ALMOST AN HOUR LATER I ANT HEARD FROM HIM SO I CHECK MY TEXT.
THE SHIT SAYS "PHONE OFFLINE" AND SHOWS THE TIME FRAME MY TEXT DIDN'T SEND
SO I START CALLING TO CONFIRM CAUSE I THOUGHT SOMETHING HAPPENED TO HIM. HE'S BEEN IN 2 CAR ACCIDENTS 👀 NEITHER HIS FAULT

SO I GET FRANTIC MY GUY

3:14 ROLLS AROUND I CALL AGAIN SURPRISE HE PICKS UP.
CLAIMS HIS PHONE DIED WHILE HE'S HANGING OUT AND HAVING A VERY "GOOD" CONVERSATION. HE WON'T TELL ME WHERE HE'S AT OR WHO WITH. MIND YOU THIS MAN CHEATED ON ME WHILE I WAS 33 WEEKS PREGNANT.

SO AT THIS POINT I'M PISSED OFF AND I TELL HIM I'M HANGING UP CAUSE I LOOK STUPID BEING WORRIED.

HE TURNS AROUND WHILE NOT BEING AROUND THIS CHICK AND FINALLY TELLS ME ALL THE DETAILS.

BTW YES WE MIGHT BE POLY BUT HE'S POSTED HIMSELF AS SOLO POLY WHILE LIVING WITH ME!! HE THINKS I'M. STUPID WITH ALSO THIS SNEAKY SHIT.

IF I WAS TO DO WHAT HE'S DOING HE'D LOOSE IT.
BUT I'M ABOUT TO GO OUTSIDE!! CAUSE YOU PLAYING IN MY FACE

Activities with baby

I’m so tired of not finding enough things to do with my 10 month old baby boy. What do you guys do to keep them engaged. I’m not giving him any screen time actually he’s not interested either in watching tv.
Any ideas and tips what to do with them I’m so tired 😣