I’m socially awkward/ have social anxiety, I am incapable of maintaining friendships, I don’t know how to, I don’t want to be in social situations but I also want friends.
At work I’m confident and people would not even question whether I had friends or not or the fact I have social anxiety. However outside of work, I am the poster girl for social interactions gone wrong. I shut down, I don’t know what to say, I don’t talk to anyone or if I do I say the most awkward shit. My partner friends joke about how they ask my partner questions to find out how I am, even while I’m sat next to him… it’s embarrassing! If they ask me something I give one word answers and walk away. when I do make friends with someone and someone does make me feel comfortable to talk I don’t carry on being their friend because the moment we start messaging and talking etc.. I forget about them. People who I can’t see or message me. I forget about. I never message first, not because I’m rude (intentionally) because I forget that person exists. I don’t know how to explain it without making myself seem rude, I get that I am but it’s not intentional I just really struggle.
but is there any other people that are like this or was like this and have tips on how to keep friendships going
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I am exactly the same!! I really struggle in social situations & prefer most of the time to be alone or just with my partner!! I tend to only have 1 or 2 close friends that I realise I want to make effort with to stay close or to keep seeing consistently! I think the best advice I can give, is that find others that are like you or are feeling the same way & I feel like the friendship will be more beneficial! Feel free to message me to talk more as I am the exact same way & have some great strategies on how to feel better about yourself! 🩵