For anyone that is dealing with criticism for being a SAHM

I wrote this for a post about a Mom that was feeling down about being a SAHM cause her family saw it as lazy. The post disappeared and I thought I would share it hear anyway. I hear from a lot of Mom's how people tell them they are lazy or taking the easy way out and that is just so untrue. Being a Mom is difficult whether you are working or being a SAHM. You are all doing an amazing job 🥰

If someone is criticizing you for your decision to work or sah I'm sorry that you are having to go through this. Times are tough and it is really hard to live on just one income. Getting help where needed is not being lazy it's taking care of your family when needed. We too can't afford childcare and are living on one income and get assistance to help make this possible. You do not owe an explanation to anyone for the way our family has chosen to operate. Try to ignore them. Sometimes, silence is an answer in and of itself. It says that you are not going to dignify the comments made with a reply. These people just truly do not understand the value and joy of being able to be a sahm. Sahm work very hard at taking care of their children and their homes. This is a very worthy occupation and there is no reason to allow others' ignorance to make you feel ashamed. You get the opportunity to watch your LO grow and experience the world. Enjoy this time! 🩷

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Thankyou ❤️

Thank you

I've been a sahm, it was harder than being at work

This is the best post I've seen so far. There should be a post where older children should read and understand what mothers go through.

Thank you

A couple of my mom's friends, she's a Nurse Practitioner, so she has doctor friends judged me at first because I didn't go the career route and dropped out of college. They've been about the only ones to say anything and for that I know I'm so lucky.I love being home with my daughter, I get to watch her grow and learn in real time instead of someone telling me hey! She did this for the first time today and I missed it. People don't understand how hard it actually is. My mom also liked to judge me on the state of my house until she took my daughter for a weekend and her perspective on me changed.

Omg yeah not that people think I’m lazy but they think we are well off and I’m like hanging at home all day doing nothing. So annoying.

My child’s grandma (paternal) told me being a sahm wasn’t a job… 🤨 while I starved my self every morning to breastfeed around the clock and didn’t shower until 3pm to make sure my baby was covered every day with health, cleanliness, nutrition, + stimulation before tending to myself while baby was napping… not to mention I’d cook dinner with baby attached to me cause he was very contact needy for me. Wish these old heads who know nothing would shut up. I never had friends and couldn’t drive so I couldn’t leave the house and be around others to get a break… not a job is fkn bs! Kiss my 🍑 with that.

I've worked three jobs at once and being a SAHM is harder.

Thank you. I've been a stay at home mom and also a mom with a paying job, and both are more than a full time job. My partner is just now getting a job that will take us off food stamps, and I'm grateful both to have had them and to not need them anymore. We're all doing what's best for our own children.

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Is it bad of me to think this or no?

My husband has been abroad for work (1 day and exploring for 1 day) for 2 and a half days which means I’ve had both kids (1 year and 4 year old) for 2 and a half days plus cooking, cleaning, taking them to clubs, bedtimes!
He came home late afternoon and said I’m so tired, I just need to chill. I said can you wash up whilst I sort kids dinner out, he said he’ll do it later which means he won’t do it and I’ll end up doing it so I said no do it now please otherwise I’ll end up doing it and he said well you have been home and I’ve been away so you’ve just been relaxing.
Don’t know what planet he is on but having the kids alone for 2.5 days is not relaxing. I was stressed!

When he was away, I did miss him and wanted him to come back but now he’s back, I want him to go away again😂
Is that bad?

Post partum dad

I have a 2 month old. A few weeks ago my husband crashed out because he didn't feel like he was getting to bond with her. I started exclusively breastfeeding around that time and honestly didnt see the big deal. Baby and I left for a few days and when we got back home, everything was fine. He was extremely hands-on. He helped with my meals, her bedtime, bath, stories.....for a few weeks it was great. Then he randomly sounds depressed af. He says our lo is better off without him, he wants to sleep all day , he asks me not to watch tv then tried playing a video game. He refused to reply to me when i asked any follow-up questions. Then he woke up our baby trying to race me to the bathroom first thing in the morning . He's doing a weird mix of crying, trying, and giving up. Im starting to feel like I cant handle him not being able to handle life with baby and just want to be alone. Are there resources for men?

Really bothered by this

A friend posted this and it really bothers me because that is exactly how she parents her kid, and it's rather unfortunate because when our kids hang out together, her kid has a meltdown at least 5x within an hour. We have know them for years and it's only gotten worse. My kids will concede to hers, because they don't want to see their friend crying, but it sucks because they give up so much of their toys and enjoyment to keep the peace. We aren't hanging out as much anymore but it's rather sad to think she doesn't intervene more in her child tantrums and just let's it slide

Feeding

My son is coming up to five months and I just started giving him oatmeal and rice cereal. When can you start trying veggies or fruits? I only give him the oatmeal or rice cereal once a day right now which is what the paediatrician had said to do. I’m just curious to when anybody tried anything else with their kids cause my son eats a lot of formula and he’s VERY curious when I eat.

My 2 year old won’t eat nothing but snacks

Is this normal ? He won’t even try anything I eat .. he really only like pizza fries and spaghetti… nuggets and snacks bananas some other fruit but like anything else he won’t eat if try but I don’t want to force him I’m just I feel like bad I mean he isn’t losing weight I breastfeed mostly still

Is this normal

Let’s say you’re at a softplay with your 2 year old, and some friends & their toddlers.
You buy your 2 year old a kids meal - chicken nuggets, beans, and chips. They’re very happy with it and have almost eaten it all.
They’re sat at the table, fork in hand, consistently eating, and have one chicken nugget left.
Your adult friend comes over from behind you, picks up the last chicken nugget, and eats it.
There was no indication that your child wasn’t going to eat it, and they didn’t ask. They just took it with no warning and ate it right in front of you and your toddler.
How you reacting?