Nanny took baby in car without permission

I would be extremely angry!

I would be so pissed! That's super not okay if you explicitly said no to that.

Where did they go? I think I would be upset too, especially since it’s the first day your husband wasn’t home and she didn’t give you a heads up as to where she was going, and because you specifically mentioned you weren’t comfortable with it.

So not okay! Our baby sitter kept bringing friends over without asking. After the third time we had to let her go. Have you spoken with your nanny about this?

Okay thanks everyone - it is reassuring to know I’m not alone in my anger. I felt physically ill! I only found out about it after her shift was done. I am trying to decide if I write to her now why this was wrong, or speak in person when she is back Friday.

@Lindsey I think it's more of an inperson conversation that way the message and tones can be clear. I would be upset as well especially since she didn't let you know where she was going.

Plus we don’t even know her car seat situation - we don’t know if it’s rear facing, not expired. Just generally this feels like a safety issue.

@Lindsey, oh, that's super scary I just assumed she used your LO's car seat. Definitely have a conversation with her and make it clear you do not want her driving with your LO. If she does it again after that, then unfortunately, you may have to look for someone else. Your baby's safety comes first.

@Rebecca oh boy… that would be very upsetting. In the end you better and hired the babysitting, not their friends, to be around your baby…

@Devony I had to ask her where they went - they went to the park at the beach even though it was pouring rain the whole day? Which is innocent enough, I guess she wanted to do something different but it’s not a close drive and again - it was pouring rain and windy all day, so I don’t understand really any of it.

Just ask her how would she feel or react if somebody would have done exactly the same thing with her kid, regardless of the fact how comfortable the kids feel around her. A mother has full right to feel uncomfortable in a situation like this without judging herself. Set boundaries and rules. And make a routine for your kid and hand it over to her. Anything outside that routine, let her check with you/husband. Also, camera is MUST in the house.

If you were clear about your not wanting that, yes I’d be mad. Then it’s hard to get trust back