They cry so much

My twin boys were born at 36.4 weeks and the first month was honestly great they just ate and slept. Yes I was very sleep deprived but it wasn’t unbearable. Fast forward to two months they started crying so much. They are fed, changed, soothed etc but they will literally just cry, high pitched cries that do not stop. We are now approaching 12 weeks (8 corrected) and I’m losing my mind with the crying. If I am not tending to them quite literally all the time, they are crying. Can’t go to the washroom, can’t really do anything else without one waking up wailing. Yes, they can in their sleep sense me leave. Did any mamas go through this??? When did it stop and how did you survive???

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That happened to me too the first month wasn’t horrible but the sleep deprivation was awful then the second month was just pure hell the sleep regression hit so fast and they cried and spit up so so much and Kaleel my baby A (first kids) didn’t stop throwing up till around 5-6 months then it finally stopped I thought maybe he had some tummy troubles but I guess his belly just needed time to get used to formula as I was only able to pump for a week until I realized I’d never get any sleep doing it I still beat myself up over that they’re now 15 months and sleeping is quite easy they get themselves down to sleep most nights

Oh am so sorry 😢 I know the struggle is beyond anyones comprehension 😔 unless they’ve experienced it 😢..
one of my twins would cry relentlessly since day one! She had a rep in the nicu for being the most feistiest one out of like 15 babies ..
so we tried it all 🤦‍♀️ we tried every different type of swaddle.. but we ended up taking her to the GI dr because she actually had slight case of acid reflux.. She was given some medicine..So that helped she still wasn’t the best sleeper but it did make a difference..
Another thing is that at 2 months they could be having a sleep regression it’s normal and part of development but it’s hard on us parents .. because we have 2 and they may not have the sleep regression at the same time.. ugh 😣 I know it’s so hard right now!! But trust me things will get better .. now I laugh because they sleep better then me.. it’s like after they hit 2 yrs and a few months they started to sleep through the night ..
((Hugs mama))

It's ok to let them cry a little bit especially if u did everything

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Over supply of milk

I am nearly 5weeks postpartum and I have such a big over supply of BM.
Has anyone donated / sold their supply, if so where do you recommend for this?

AITA

In the uk there is an outbreak of meningitis, in a specific area mainly. My BD has family from that area and decided to go and meet up with them, I said if he does then he cannot have contact with the kids for 7-10 days after incase he picks anything up. Am I being over dramatic? I reallyyy don’t want my young kids getting anything serious

I think its fair

Me and my partner agreed to sleep in 1 day of the weekend.
He doesn't find it fair to look after both kids (my 4 year old isnt his) while i sleep so he looks after the baby while i sleep and my toddlers at his dads and ill look after both the next day.
Straightaway it was pretty unfair as i let him sleep in until he wakes up 10-12
He wakes me up when baby starts fussing because he wants milk (doesnt need it)
I cant pump as i dont supply enough.
So i get woken at 9/9:30 to feed baby then i get him sleep then theres no point sleeping in as my toddlers being dropped off.
I also find it unfair that i get both kids to sleep most night, i get my toddler to sleep everyday hes home (4/5days) and i get my baby to sleep most nights with the exception of maybe twice a month as his dad struggless then about 95% of his thru the day naps.
I have also been unwell for a few months (tumor scare) and am waiting 18 weeks to see a specialist so im obviously petrified for that, so unbelievably tired and alot of aches and pains, specifically these pounding headaches ive been having.
After i had been up til 11:30 getting both kids to sleep lastnight and my partner falling asleep at 10 then him ignoring the baby cries all morning until my toddler woke up im fed up slammed to door and rold him not to expect to sleep in unless he gets the baby to sleep the night b4.
I keep having issues with him not feeling the wet from baby being sick or weeing himself or being able to smell it do about 98% of the time hes given to me i have to clean him up n change him.
Including at night, we agreed my partner would change nappies (1 a night at 5am) while i feed (2,4,5,6:30) but every night when i get him hes pissed through and my partner gets annoyed when i wake him up n moan about it.
Then the morning after hes annoyed at how much washing there is (thats his job) and moans about how often i change myself (baby constantly shits thru and sicks on me) and baby
Honestly im just so tired all the time

Baby clothes

Just out of curiosity, why do parents love zipper onesies?

Don’t get me wrong, I tried zipper ones it’s easy to zip in and out when putting it on the first time and taking it out, but I find it difficult when changing diapers especially when baby is asleep.

I prefer those kimono style buttons where it’s easy to button or too down button with crotch snaps.

Is everyone thinking the same or different? Lol

This might rattle some people

Ok, this might get a bit long, and a bit bumpy, so get comfy and buckle up.

So about a week or 2 ago, there was a post on here regarding sleepovers. Not letting their child go to them as you can't trust who'll be at the house etc.

Now, given recent incidents in nurseries and schools, plus my own experience back in the 90s, I am more concerned about sending my child to nursery and later school than I am to a friend's house for a sleep over.

The other day a man was jailed for abusing children at the nursery he worked at. A woman has been arrested for sleeping with an underage boy and then getting pregnant by a different underage boy while on bail for the first offence.

Young girls and boys get sexually harassed and bullied when at school, not all of them. But more than you think. And not just by other kids, but by adults who we as parents are trusting to look after our kids.

A sleepover, is a more controlled environment, with only a handful of people coming into contact with your child. A school, a club etc there can be 100s of people coming into contact with your child.

I was targeted at 7 years old by the owner of a prominent private school. Thankfully, I wasn't SA'd. In year 5 of primary school, I started to develop early, I was harassed by the boys and teachers made remarks about how my uniform didn't fit right, always "adjusting it" around my chest and legs.

Years 7-9 of secondary school were hell. But it was all under the guise of "we're just messing around". A teacher twanging my exposed bra strap (none uniform day) is not "messing around".

Boys pinning me down trying to rip open my shirt to see my breasts.

I fear for my daughter. I hope she takes after my father's family, flat chested.

We need to educate all our children, what is acceptable behaviour. And to come to us, as their parents should ANYTHING happen.

Car seat

No idea which car seat to get next. Please hit me with your recommendations, 1year+ (preferably rear facing or 360). Thank you 🫶🏻