My family thinks i hold my baby too much
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The whole concept of “holding your baby too much” is a lie, never made sense never will
I been told I spoil my baby so much because I hold him a lot he’s 18 months now and I will still pick him up I do not believe he’s spoiled as he’s independent will play on his own and much more it’s just us mamas miss are little ones it’s natural me and my boyfriend are having our second and he try’s to tell me not to hold him to much an I tell him all the time ima hold him as much as I want lol
I could tell you were from the US the minute you said your baby goes to childcare at just 9 weeks old. I can’t imagine how heartbreaking that must be for you. You live in a country that doesn’t value natural instinct. It is completely natural that you want your baby close, and for your baby to want to be close to you. You are still in the fourth trimester: your baby still thinks they are a part of you. Remind yourself of this next time someone judges you for holding her close. It’s where she is meant to be. I’m sorry you live in a country that doesn’t respect decent maternity leave. Keep on holding her as much as you can: she will grow so quickly!
Keep doing what works for you two. You cannot spoil an infant anyway. Developmental psychologist back this up too. Enjoy the cuddles, kids grow fast
You cant spoil a baby with love. Trust your instincts, mama. Cant image how much you must miss your little one all day 💕
Wow my baby is 9 weeks old to i cant imagine going back to work now i hold my baby all day because i want to idc wat anybody else says
It’s annoying when ppl say that like it’s your kid not there’s they shouldn’t be saying that
There’s no such thing as spoiling a baby or holding them too much !!!! Snuggle that baby, hold that baby, for however long you want!! I got a lot of flack for contact napping with my baby girl when she was younger, and it broke my heart when people would be so upset when I said that’s what we did. Bonding with your baby & cuddling and holding them is part of building that relationship and bond with your child, and it is proven in studies that babies who were held/snuggled etc more “frequently” than other children have strong confidence skills and a strong sense of self.
You. Cannot. Spoil. A. Child. By. Responding. To. Their. Needs. Full stop. A 9 week old's needs include being close to their mother and being held and anyone who disagrees can fuck ALL THE WAY off
Hold your baby ❤️. People are crazy. Cuddle that baby as often as you can 💕💕💕💕.
Yes! I hard ignore that advice. I put baby down on the floor to play, but stay engaged with her and pick her up after a few minutes.
What concealer, setting and baking powder do you use? Your undereye makeup looks flawless!
It enrages me. I'll hold my baby forever. I had to send my baby to daycare at 10 weeks and it was devastating, therefore I soak up every second we have together
Your makeup looks SO good by the way!!
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Yes everyone tells me and they say it’s bad and I’m making her spoiled
This is so sad, no I’ve not been told that. You hold that baby all you want!
no you are doing the right thing!!! hold that baby every chance you get there’s no such thing as too much🥺 you’re still in that 4th trimester where it’s so crucial for their development too.
@🎀E🎀 Thank you! I use mac concealer! And huda baking powder! I use nars foundation!
It must be so hard leaving your baby and going back to work when she is still so young. So sad the US doesn't provide more maternity. Enjoy all the cuddles you want! It would also be beneficial for her to relax in the evenings and get ready for bed, she will love the cuddles. Hope you are ok.
My daughter is 16 months and I wish I can get all the snuggles and holds more. She loves running around and wants no cuddles. Take it all in and get as much as you want. You know what’s best for little one. ♥️♥️
Holding your baby creates attachment and a bond and is vital for babies development. https://www.bbc.co.uk/tiny-happy-people/can-i-cuddle-baby-too-much/zmdtqfr#:~:text=No%2C%20absolutely%20not.,bond%20between%20parent%20and%20baby. X
My family fed me the same bull. But no. I'm a working mom and I want all the cuddles and loves I can get. Keep doing you!
Hold your baby ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Ignore them! Keep holding that little one. They'll be grown up and not wanting your hugs in no time
There isn’t such a thing. You follow your instincts mama, you are doing amazing. Xxx
You hold your baby as much as you want babe and as much as you can they don't stay small forever enjoy her/him while there small.. not only that you can never love them too much. Your a working mummy also so not seeing little one all day is hard enough what people say about it is irrelevant love your baby as much as you like 😘
These people are retarded I’m sorry. If I had to go to work that early I’d cry all day at work and never put my child down ever. Period.
It’s impossible to love and comfort your baby too much. I seriously wonder what’s mentally wrong with people who claim you can. She’s still so young, I can’t imagine how it feels to have to leave her. Of course you’re going to want to do nothing but cuddle her when you’re home. You’re giving her exactly what she needs, cuddle her as much as you both want.
Awe ignore them & enjoy those lovely baby snuggles 🥰 ❤️
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Yep my MIL asked would we spoil him by holding him so much. I told her quite firmly there's nothing wrong with him knowing his parents are always there for him, she never asked again 😂
and then they say “she’s so spoiled” well yeah she’s a baby 🤷🏽♀️
No such thing as holding your baby too much !!!! You just cuddle your baby as much as you want and as much as your baby needs you too ♥️
Girl youre doing great Does she can hold herself? No So you’re just taking care of her and that’s all that she needs trust me!!
They have told me from the start I hold my son too much and I’m spoiling him but he also only took a week to realise that I will be back to get him after work every day where as my nieces still have problems with their moms leaving sometimes and their two, your just creating a secure attachment even if every one else thinks it looks like spoiling
That’s literally my mum. And I’m so glad I did it while I was home and still do it when I get back home from work . They think I’m spoiling my kid with holding her too often or she’ll get acustomed to only wanting to be held . I’m back at work and she only 2mnths going 3 (I’m a single mommy who needs funds for baby and I.) and she’s okay with everyone not holding her but the second I’m back home she’ll cry when she sees me and the second I hold her she’ll fall asleep 🥹 though everyone thinks she hates me cause she cries I like to think she cries cause she obviously misses me and falls asleep faster with me cause I’m obviously her comfort 🥹🫶
Holding your baby too much is frankly impossible, add in the fact that you’re back to work and it’s even more bizarre to think you hold her too much. Hold her until you physically can’t hold her anymore!! She’s your baby. My first baby is 14 and we are the same height now, at some point I put her down and never picked her up again and I never will again so just cherish the time you’re able to hold your baby and don’t let people tell you otherwise.
@Andrea that is exactly why your baby cries when she sees you! It’s very common for babies to cry when they see their mum even if they were fine before. She cries out of relief and longing for you as she sees you she can’t wait for you to come and take her and the only way she can communicate all of that is to cry. She obviously loves and has a bond with you hence her falling asleep once you take her she feels safe and like everything is right again. These people annoy me so much, hold your baby she needs you and wants you and you make her happier than anyone else 🥰
You can never hold a baby too much xxx
Omg please. When mine was still a baby I held him in my arms 24/7. We were literally like one person. Yes I’ve been told that but did I care at that point? Nope. I’m so glad I didn’t because now we have an amazing bond. I loved every minute of it. You do what makes YOU happy. It’s your baby :)
@Andrea this is a sign of secure attachment, crying and allowing themselves to be comforted by you and quickly recovering means that she doesn’t have to wonder if you are going to meet her needs, she know that you will be there when she needs it
Please ignore them. I know sometimes it can be harder when it’s family, but they are speaking absolute nonsense. And the fact that your baby is only 9 weeks makes these comments even more ridiculous.
Hold your baby sis! They grow so fast. I hold my kids, kiss them, and tell them I love them all throughout the day, everyday. I am now seeing how that has affected my son (2 yo now). I see and know I AM his safe space! He fall down and get hurt, he comes to me and I still hug him, hold him, and encourage him to try again and off he goes to try again. While others try to “he’s a boy” “why is he crying, toughen up” me to death! I feel nurturing your child teaches them love and security. Back in the day that myth of if you hold the child too much you will spoil him was a sneaky way to separate moms from their babies…. It’s 2024, let the spoiling begin honey. I rather my children know what love and security feels like vs being too familiar with abandonment because even these years matter for down the line.
I was told by a specialist that in the first 6 months of a babies life, you cannot love them enough. Cuddles, kisses and security 24/7! You are literally doing the best thing. Plus it’s your baby so do what you like haha ❤️❤️
I bet it’s the older people in the family. They think babies come out independent. That’s probably what’s wrong with some parent relationships now they wasn’t being held as a baby.
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How can a PARENT hold their baby too much?! You love her and have been at work, away from her all day, you’re allowed to want to hold your baby without it being a big deal. I’ve never understood people that think you can hold a baby too much 😭
I'm sorry but who in the right mind even says that? You're the little ones mama and that's all that matters and everything else is non of their business. Why would you not want to hold your newborn baby so much?! Its absolutely ridiculous. This milestone doesn't last long and if you're working then it's taking them precious moments away. You keep on being YOU mama and you love and hold your beautiful baby✨️
What? Ignore them.
They're not babies for long. Enjoy the cuddles. I wish I had when my daughter was a baby. Now I've got my son I'm enjoying all the cuddles as much as I can x
The only possible issue I could see is that babies, even young ones need a certain amount of free movement time every day in order to develop gross motor skills (which, you can still give them alongside loving and secure attachment just by sitting with them and engaging with them). But if she's a day care baby she's probably already getting that anyway and frankly, with you gone part of the day, she needs to reinforce that attachment when you are there. Holding her, cuddling, engaging, you're doing the right thing. Boomers come from a generation that believed kids needed to be reprimanded, strongly disciplined, and brought into line because they are born contentious and willful and that's simply not true. Those things are learned, socialized behaviours. At birth, babies only care about survival and secure attachment is how they achieve that.
It’s your baby, you cannot hold her too much. She spent longer in the safety of your body than outside it, I’m sure it comforts her as much as you.