Should I stay or should I go ?

Leave! I was kind of in the same situation but probably worse. If you have expressed how you feel and he don't care to change then he won't! Save yourself anymore pain and just move forward it will be hard but you have to think of you and the baby not him! Wish u the best of luck

I am deeply sorry that you are going through this. Honestly, I’m sorry to say but I say let him go. He clearly wants other girls and doesn’t care about anyone but himself. You deserve better. If you have friends or family who is willing to stay with you and help you around the house and help take care of your kid, do it girl.

So sorry that you have to go through this. Heartbreaking! But he brings nothing positive into your life by the look of it, get rid of that man darling. You can do better than this. And sign up to UC for a financial support, you can receive money from them as a single mother even when you are on maternity pay. They will contribute towards your mortgage, much more than what he does. Do it all asap, they do not backdate it. Do not let him treat you like shit. He can work on himself outside of your house if he cares. You don’t have to keep him around just because he’s your baby daddy.
I am sending you lots of strength and love for this time. Please take care of yourself 🧡

thank you, I think I was so scared just until recently to make such a decision, but he left me no choice
I’ve tried to explained to him many times how I feel and what support I need but no change for over a year, and I would just be listening every time he is going to change 🤦‍♀️

that’s so true, unfortunately I don’t have family here and many of my friend live far away but I can’t be with someone who barely helps, I think I’ll be better off without him and figure out everything on my way as I have to 😊

thank you for the encouragement, I’ve applied for UC they didn’t give me anything as I was told that my maternity pay is enough so I’m not eligible, they don’t look at your expenses but rather your circumstances and what the employer reports to them
Maybe I’ve filled something incorrectly reason why they are saying I’m not eligible 🤨

Trust me I know . You hope that someday he will change but you can't sit around forever

Girl. I was in a similar position to you apart from the fact that I live at my mums house. You got to leave. The next time he goes out I’d pack his things, put them outside and lock the door, if not even change the key. After I left my ex, I was so much happier and at peace because I didn’t have the additional stress and weight. It’s hard and you will go back and forth on whether you made the right choice at first but honestly there is no better feeling than leaving and setting yourself free xx

I know, though he is fully moved in and even got a key and I’m
So scared do move him out like that because I fear he will do something to
Me or the baby, like I don’t have family here and I’m not quiet sure if it would be wise to be in that situation alone
He will need to agree on moving out, I’ve not spoken to him in the past three days but I can already tell the difference, like I feel better, I don’t care where he is, what he is doing none of that
I need to make sure that me and the baby are fine ☺️ it is sometimes challenging but I would rather be tired from not having enough sleep because of my baby than arguing with the person who is a joke

I kicked mine out and trust me its sooooo much easier doing things alone. Your already doing it all alone so think about how much easier it would be if your got rid of one big added stressor (HIM). I was so scared of doing things alone and i have more money without him because he was an extra person to feed and he would spend money on cigarettes coffee whatever and I get things done with way less stress and have time to myself at the end of the day when my son goes to bed

If you fear he will do something then make the police aware as that way they can help you x