Baby blues…

I been crying non stop im so sad the littlest thing will make me ball my eyes out I feel I’m not meant to be a mother my family has had to chip in cause I’m so emotional and sad and I try to bond with my baby but I feel sad all the time with her I love my baby with my heart and soul and want to protect her but I just feel like I can’t do it idk… I kinda just don’t wanna be here anymore like idk if I’m suicidal or not and like I feel there’s no escape I hate I feel like this I truly do…I feel I am a shit person and a shittier mom I’m also just is massive pain from my c section
I don’t wanna be judged to much for this cause I already know how bad I sound

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First of all, there is nothing uncommon about what you have just said. Between the life transition, hormone dump, lack of sleep, adjustments, etc, no wonder you’re feeling like this! You are a great mom; you recognized you needed help and brought it in. Is your baby fed, clothed, cleaned, and loved? Then you’re doing a good job!
I had a really dark moment just this week; the day was so bad and I just wanted to hurt myself. You’re not isolated in this. I knows it’s scary but it might be a good idea to talk to your doctor or pediatrician. I think the common fear is that your baby will be taken away if you do but so far that hasn’t been my experience; they can help you get whatever help you need❤️

thank u for replying, she’s very well taken care of I might end up mentioning this to my doctor Monday…

This is completely normal how you are feeling, it's so difficult having a newborn and recovering from a C section, whilst navigating a new life, and the hormones that go along with it.. crying is okay, but if you get thoughts of harming yourself or baby, that's a bit more of a worry, and one you should be getting help with. Have you got family or friends you can speak too about this? It's good you are reaching out though and recognising this in yourself. I know I don't know you, but I'm happy for you to message me if you don't have anyone else to talk too x

Great idea❤️here for you and cheering you on; there is no one else who was meant to be the mother of your child. YOU were made for this! I’ve always heard the saying “if you’re worried you’re a bad mom then you’re not a bad mom”.

Hi there, I underwent a c-section a week ago, and I'm experiencing a lot of similarities. It's incredibly tough trying to care for my baby while also dealing with the pain of recovery. Emotionally, it's been quite challenging, and not being able to do as much as I'd like has definitely affected my bond with my daughter. I've had to rely heavily on my partner this first week, which has left me feeling guilty and inadequate as a mother. I'm overwhelmed by the desire to protect my little one while still not being physically strong enough to do so as I'd hoped. It's tough, but it's important to remember that these feelings are completely normal and valid. I'm trying to reassure myself that with time and recovery, things will get easier. Feel free to reach out; I understand completely and there's no judgment here! ❤️

it’s how I’m feeling too like I wanna bond with my baby but it is so hard I’m scared she won’t see me as her mommy and it makes me feel even worse that I can’t do her feedings all the time or diaper changes cause I’m just so exhausted As and can’t even sit right or sleep good

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Over supply of milk

I am nearly 5weeks postpartum and I have such a big over supply of BM.
Has anyone donated / sold their supply, if so where do you recommend for this?

AITA

In the uk there is an outbreak of meningitis, in a specific area mainly. My BD has family from that area and decided to go and meet up with them, I said if he does then he cannot have contact with the kids for 7-10 days after incase he picks anything up. Am I being over dramatic? I reallyyy don’t want my young kids getting anything serious

I think its fair

Me and my partner agreed to sleep in 1 day of the weekend.
He doesn't find it fair to look after both kids (my 4 year old isnt his) while i sleep so he looks after the baby while i sleep and my toddlers at his dads and ill look after both the next day.
Straightaway it was pretty unfair as i let him sleep in until he wakes up 10-12
He wakes me up when baby starts fussing because he wants milk (doesnt need it)
I cant pump as i dont supply enough.
So i get woken at 9/9:30 to feed baby then i get him sleep then theres no point sleeping in as my toddlers being dropped off.
I also find it unfair that i get both kids to sleep most night, i get my toddler to sleep everyday hes home (4/5days) and i get my baby to sleep most nights with the exception of maybe twice a month as his dad struggless then about 95% of his thru the day naps.
I have also been unwell for a few months (tumor scare) and am waiting 18 weeks to see a specialist so im obviously petrified for that, so unbelievably tired and alot of aches and pains, specifically these pounding headaches ive been having.
After i had been up til 11:30 getting both kids to sleep lastnight and my partner falling asleep at 10 then him ignoring the baby cries all morning until my toddler woke up im fed up slammed to door and rold him not to expect to sleep in unless he gets the baby to sleep the night b4.
I keep having issues with him not feeling the wet from baby being sick or weeing himself or being able to smell it do about 98% of the time hes given to me i have to clean him up n change him.
Including at night, we agreed my partner would change nappies (1 a night at 5am) while i feed (2,4,5,6:30) but every night when i get him hes pissed through and my partner gets annoyed when i wake him up n moan about it.
Then the morning after hes annoyed at how much washing there is (thats his job) and moans about how often i change myself (baby constantly shits thru and sicks on me) and baby
Honestly im just so tired all the time

Baby clothes

Just out of curiosity, why do parents love zipper onesies?

Don’t get me wrong, I tried zipper ones it’s easy to zip in and out when putting it on the first time and taking it out, but I find it difficult when changing diapers especially when baby is asleep.

I prefer those kimono style buttons where it’s easy to button or too down button with crotch snaps.

Is everyone thinking the same or different? Lol

This might rattle some people

Ok, this might get a bit long, and a bit bumpy, so get comfy and buckle up.

So about a week or 2 ago, there was a post on here regarding sleepovers. Not letting their child go to them as you can't trust who'll be at the house etc.

Now, given recent incidents in nurseries and schools, plus my own experience back in the 90s, I am more concerned about sending my child to nursery and later school than I am to a friend's house for a sleep over.

The other day a man was jailed for abusing children at the nursery he worked at. A woman has been arrested for sleeping with an underage boy and then getting pregnant by a different underage boy while on bail for the first offence.

Young girls and boys get sexually harassed and bullied when at school, not all of them. But more than you think. And not just by other kids, but by adults who we as parents are trusting to look after our kids.

A sleepover, is a more controlled environment, with only a handful of people coming into contact with your child. A school, a club etc there can be 100s of people coming into contact with your child.

I was targeted at 7 years old by the owner of a prominent private school. Thankfully, I wasn't SA'd. In year 5 of primary school, I started to develop early, I was harassed by the boys and teachers made remarks about how my uniform didn't fit right, always "adjusting it" around my chest and legs.

Years 7-9 of secondary school were hell. But it was all under the guise of "we're just messing around". A teacher twanging my exposed bra strap (none uniform day) is not "messing around".

Boys pinning me down trying to rip open my shirt to see my breasts.

I fear for my daughter. I hope she takes after my father's family, flat chested.

We need to educate all our children, what is acceptable behaviour. And to come to us, as their parents should ANYTHING happen.

Car seat

No idea which car seat to get next. Please hit me with your recommendations, 1year+ (preferably rear facing or 360). Thank you 🫶🏻