Not letting people walk all over you…

So I recently stood up to a friend about how she had been hurting my feelings during pregnancy and it went south pretty quick… she hasn’t talked to me since which isn’t the worst thing because I needed the space but we work at the same place and I don’t want it to be awkward until my maternity leave starts. Long story short she crossed some boundaries with me pretty early in my pregnancy and i feel like she treated me differently ever since even though I repetitively told her I didn’t want that. I haven’t had a great pregnancy due to body dysmorphia and pretty bad anxiety and I have had to ask her multiple times to back off. Recently she wouldn’t leave it be so I just exploded… am I in the wrong here? I don’t feel like I am but man my pregnancy hormones have me up and down about it. I hate that I feel guilty for expressing my feelings even though something should have been said.

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She’s not a real friend if she can’t see that you’re hurting. My best friend told me to abort my baby in the beginning of my pregnancy now he’s done more for me than my bd in my third trimester. People come and go and unfortunately pregnancy is one of those things that shows people’s true colors. You deserve compassion, understanding, and support right now. Anyone that doesn’t get that, should not be allowed access to you. You’re hormones are going to be all over the place, you’re literally growing a human being. Don’t feel guilty that other people are too dense to understand that. Feel better mama

I was just talking to my boyfriend about how ever since I got pregnant I feel like a “symptom” I’ve gotten is to be able to stand up for myself. I’m usually very passive and keep my mouth shut but ever since I became pregnant I just can’t anymore. I’ve been doing the same thing to a few “friends” of mine and now we barely talk but idrc we’re adults I shouldn’t have to keep telling you that something you’re doing or saying is bothering me. I will not play nice about things when my son is born either. If people in your life are making your feel like shit and bring no real value to you, just let them go.

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