Linking sleep cycles for naps - HELP!

My LG has been on 2 naps now for about a month but she still won’t link her sleep cycles during naps…

She’ll fall asleep feeding and then go down in her cot but then will wake after 20-40 minutes and will have to be rocked back to sleep and then it can take several times to try and transfer her back into her cot.

I don’t know how to move away from her relying on me to rock her back to sleep during every nap?

Anyone overcome something similar and found anything that worked?

Thanks!

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Not found anything to help but just want to give reassurance it gets better, my 8 month old was contact napping only until 6 months, then only doing 30 mins on the dot each month and then for the last week somethings just clicked and he’s doing 90-120 min naps x

I think I read somewhere that baby has to learn how to settle to sleep on their own to link the cycles. Otherwise they wake after one cycle if the conditions in which they fell asleep aren’t the same (so they would need to be held/fed back to sleep). When mine learned to self soothe her naps went from 40 minutes to 2 hours long and all in her cot without rocking/feeding to sleep etc.

how did you teach self soothing please? X

we did some sleep training when she was about 6 months old. It went a bit out the window when she learned to stand as that’s all she wanted to do in her cot but we did it again recently and she’s self soothing again

what kind of sleep training did you try? We're really struggling atm

we bought a course from just chill baby sleep and followed the routine they provided. It was kind of like the Ferber method where you go in after a certain amount of time (that you choose) to settle them before leaving again. If they’re crying you go back in again and continue doing that until they’re asleep. The first time it took 45 minutes for her to fall asleep and she pretty much self settled 90% of the time after that. The second time took about an hour and she’s back to self settling since then (it’s been about a week). It is hard because baby is likely to cry as it’s a change in their routine but it was so worth it for us.

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Has anyone donated / sold their supply, if so where do you recommend for this?

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In the uk there is an outbreak of meningitis, in a specific area mainly. My BD has family from that area and decided to go and meet up with them, I said if he does then he cannot have contact with the kids for 7-10 days after incase he picks anything up. Am I being over dramatic? I reallyyy don’t want my young kids getting anything serious

I think its fair

Me and my partner agreed to sleep in 1 day of the weekend.
He doesn't find it fair to look after both kids (my 4 year old isnt his) while i sleep so he looks after the baby while i sleep and my toddlers at his dads and ill look after both the next day.
Straightaway it was pretty unfair as i let him sleep in until he wakes up 10-12
He wakes me up when baby starts fussing because he wants milk (doesnt need it)
I cant pump as i dont supply enough.
So i get woken at 9/9:30 to feed baby then i get him sleep then theres no point sleeping in as my toddlers being dropped off.
I also find it unfair that i get both kids to sleep most night, i get my toddler to sleep everyday hes home (4/5days) and i get my baby to sleep most nights with the exception of maybe twice a month as his dad struggless then about 95% of his thru the day naps.
I have also been unwell for a few months (tumor scare) and am waiting 18 weeks to see a specialist so im obviously petrified for that, so unbelievably tired and alot of aches and pains, specifically these pounding headaches ive been having.
After i had been up til 11:30 getting both kids to sleep lastnight and my partner falling asleep at 10 then him ignoring the baby cries all morning until my toddler woke up im fed up slammed to door and rold him not to expect to sleep in unless he gets the baby to sleep the night b4.
I keep having issues with him not feeling the wet from baby being sick or weeing himself or being able to smell it do about 98% of the time hes given to me i have to clean him up n change him.
Including at night, we agreed my partner would change nappies (1 a night at 5am) while i feed (2,4,5,6:30) but every night when i get him hes pissed through and my partner gets annoyed when i wake him up n moan about it.
Then the morning after hes annoyed at how much washing there is (thats his job) and moans about how often i change myself (baby constantly shits thru and sicks on me) and baby
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I prefer those kimono style buttons where it’s easy to button or too down button with crotch snaps.

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Ok, this might get a bit long, and a bit bumpy, so get comfy and buckle up.

So about a week or 2 ago, there was a post on here regarding sleepovers. Not letting their child go to them as you can't trust who'll be at the house etc.

Now, given recent incidents in nurseries and schools, plus my own experience back in the 90s, I am more concerned about sending my child to nursery and later school than I am to a friend's house for a sleep over.

The other day a man was jailed for abusing children at the nursery he worked at. A woman has been arrested for sleeping with an underage boy and then getting pregnant by a different underage boy while on bail for the first offence.

Young girls and boys get sexually harassed and bullied when at school, not all of them. But more than you think. And not just by other kids, but by adults who we as parents are trusting to look after our kids.

A sleepover, is a more controlled environment, with only a handful of people coming into contact with your child. A school, a club etc there can be 100s of people coming into contact with your child.

I was targeted at 7 years old by the owner of a prominent private school. Thankfully, I wasn't SA'd. In year 5 of primary school, I started to develop early, I was harassed by the boys and teachers made remarks about how my uniform didn't fit right, always "adjusting it" around my chest and legs.

Years 7-9 of secondary school were hell. But it was all under the guise of "we're just messing around". A teacher twanging my exposed bra strap (none uniform day) is not "messing around".

Boys pinning me down trying to rip open my shirt to see my breasts.

I fear for my daughter. I hope she takes after my father's family, flat chested.

We need to educate all our children, what is acceptable behaviour. And to come to us, as their parents should ANYTHING happen.

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