Grieving while parenting
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Being around my family and friends who loved him and talked about him also helped me process a lot at first and feel understood. Grief can be so isolating! If you can, surround yourself with those people. It’s hard with kiddos. Maybe have someone watch him while you do? Honestly just do your best and give yourself grace 💛
I’m sorry love. I just lost my uncle as well. I’m currently crying during naps. I also wake up early to cry. Honestly crying helps me grieve. Trying to hold it in isn’t good for your soul. Then when my baby wakes up I light up and feel better and can be happy for him and love on him
I just lost my mom two months ago, I have a 14month and 8 months pregnant. It is not easy. I have found some peace by writing letters to her. Remember to breathe. These aren’t easy times. Personally, my son looks confused when I cry so I just try to collect myself and hug & kiss him. Wouldn’t know what to do without him during this time. Stay strong mama
I lost my grandpa in January, and we were extremely close. I spent every day in the hospital with him until he was gone. I have had to rely on my in-laws, husband, and parents a lot more. The hardest part was taking my son to visit my freshly widowed grandma and watch him look for my Papa. Talking to my son about how amazing his papa was and how much he loved him has helped me tremendously. I have also dropped my son off and his grandparents' homes so I could find a room by myself and just cry it out. It's been hard. Crying in front of my son made him cry at first, but I think he's pieced it together. He now tries to comfort me. I think it's important to show them it's okay to grieve. Grief isn't something that needs to be hidden
Honestly, find a safe way to allow yourself to cry and feel. It’s the only way to process the grief. Do you have access to grief counseling or someone close to talk to? It’s important to get your feelings out. Give yourself grace for what you are doing!! Emotions are hard! Parenting is hard! Put on a slow movie for him and take a break in the bathroom or closet if your baby has a safe area to be in. Put a baby monitor on him and watch him from the other room. Reach out to people around you and see if they could watch him for a little while. Set up a sensory activity in a play pen and put the baby monitor on him so you can get a small break while he plays (my babies love sticking stuff in boon grass. Like stackable toys and teething straws). Grief absolutely sucks and I’m so sorry you’re experiencing it! My biggest hugs and prayers go to you! It takes a long time to work through. I lost my dad two and a half years ago and it still hits me often.